Dear Class of 2020,
Finally.
If you're reading this, that means the day you've been waiting and working so hard for has finally come: you're graduating from college, albeit it in an unprecedented way.
And because I know you so well, I know that you are absolutely terrified beyond measure of the fact that you are about to take this giant leap into the world of adulthood.
So first and foremost, congratulations for making it here.
Second, breathe.
Do not let the fear you feel undermine the significance of what today is in any way. Know that you have earned this.
It took years of so much struggle to bring you to this point, and I know it was never easy getting here. You faced the highest of highs and the lowest of lows.
From the panic attacks during the all-night study sessions for that test you thought you would absolutely fail to the nights downtown with friends celebrating being young and being alive, it feels like you've been through just about everything that life can throw at you, but you were never alone. Even in the night you were drowning in the tears from your own stress, you always had someone there to help you if you needed them.
Now here you are, at the edge of the cliff about to jump off into the next phase of life that you've been preparing to face on your own.
So breathe.
You're not a kid anymore. Well, you'll always be a kid at heart, but now society recognizes you as a person old enough and smart enough to function as an individual.
And yes, that is absolutely terrifying, but I want you to know that you'll be fine. You are completely ready for this because you've come so far.
For every breakdown, you came back and pushed forward. For every assignment you failed, you got a better grade to make up for it. For every time a professor made you feel inferior, you proved them wrong. For every time you didn't believe you'd ever make it here, to the moments before you walk across that stage right before you...well, look at yourself now.
All those times you thought you wouldn't make it in the past, mean nothing anymore. You are not defined by the mistakes you made; not by that STAT test you failed or that online quiz you forgot to take. For every error you made, you made up for it twice as hard.
Just breathe.
You know that the world won't always be nice. Maybe you have a job lined up already by now, or maybe it'll take you a few more months. Know that either way, things will work out for you, because you've always fought for the things you've wanted, just like you fought to get here today.
You wouldn't be here right now reading this letter if you hadn't earned this. There wouldn't be a piece of paper up there with your name on it if you didn't deserve it.
Don't think that every second of the last few years leading up to this very moment didn't matter. It all shaped you; it all brought you here. It's time to celebrate that now.
Please breathe.
This is your day. This is your moment.
You are ready for this. The world is yours to take on now, and you will come out on top. You've proved that by making it through these last few years. Deep down, under all of this fear you're facing, you know that you are capable of accomplishing incredible things.
So walk across that stage with your head held high, a smile on your face and the confidence to know that this is the first day of the rest of your life, and it's going to be beautiful, no matter where you end up or what you do.
Your friends and family believe in you. More importantly, I believe in you, and I am you. Know that you believe in yourself. Know that you have accomplished something great, and this is only the beginning.
For the rest of your life, this day will always serve as a reminder of just how amazing you truly are.
So go out there and see the world; do the things you've always wanted to do and travel to the places you've always wanted to go. Nothing can stop you now.
Breathe.
Happy exploring.
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I think the hardest thing about going away to college is figuring out how to become an adult. Leaving a household where your parents took care of literally everything (thanks, Mom!) and suddenly becoming your own boss is overwhelming. I feel like I'm doing a pretty good job of being a grown-up, but once in awhile I do something that really makes me feel like I'm #adulting. Twenty-somethings know what I'm talking about.
1. Taking care of yourself when you're sick
When I was younger, my mom took such good of me if I got sick. Now, if I puke, I have to clean it up. Gross. I also have to make my own chicken noodle soup. I wish my mom could take of me forever.
2. Making a to-do list
To-do lists are so mom-ish, but I thrive off of them. Plus, they make me feel accomplished as heck.
3. Planning your activities around the weather
It never fails to make me feel old when I say, "There's a chance of snow on Thursday. How about we do Friday instead?"
4. Scheduling your own doctor’s appointments
Most twenty-somethings fear talking on the phone, myself included. I draw the line at going to the doctor alone, though.
5. Getting your own toilet paper
Nothing makes me feel like I'm officially #adulting like picking up a giant pack of toilet paper at Target...or smuggling some rolls in my backpack.
6. Making food without needing to ask your mom questions
"Yeah, Mom? Can you use canola oil instead of vegetable oil? Okay, thanks."..."Hey Mom, me again. This recipe wants two cups of sugar, but I only have one and a half. Should I just try it anyways?"
7. Holding your tongue
In high school, I was a lot more willing to comment on racist Facebook statuses and sexist Tweets. Now, I'd rather just avoid the conflict. It isn't worth it.
8. Saving your paycheck (or your tax refund) to pay your bills
I was excited to get money back from my tax refund, but it all went right back into my bank account. When you're 20 years old, responsibilities come before shopping sprees, unfortunately.
9. Balancing your checkbook
Do people in their twenties write checks, or is it just me? There's something so satisfying about getting a sum in your checkbook that equals the sum on your bank account.
10. Going places alone
In high school, I didn't do anything alone. Now, I enjoy my solitude a little more. I walk to class alone and eat lunch by myself. It makes me appreciate my friends so much more!
11. Packing your own lunches
I miss the days where my mom made my lunches for me. Now I just make a sandwich and wish someone had cut the crust off.
12. Actually eating your vegetables...on purpose
I never thought my fridge would have carrots, broccoli and celery in it. I still don't really like raw vegetables, but I know they're good for me, so I force myself to eat them.
13. Taking a multivitamin
I've got to make sure I'm getting all my vitamins so I can stay healthy. That way I don't have to call the doctor!
14. Planning a life after graduation
Resumes, cover letters and job applications are the worst part of #adulting because they remind me that, someday, I will be a full-time adult. Scary.
8 Things That Anyone Who Went To A Small School Knows
Sometimes bigger isn't always better.
I went to a small high school, like 120-people-in-my-graduating-class small. It definitely had some good and some bad, and if you also went to a small high school, I’m sure you’ll relate to the things that I went through.
1. If something happens, everyone knows about it
Who hooked up with whom at the party? Yeah, heard about that an hour after it happened. You failed a test? Sorry, saw on Twitter last period. Facebook fight or, God forbid, real fight? It was on half the class’ Snapchat story half an hour ago. No matter what you do, someone will know about it.
2. Never getting to be invisible
I like to stand out, but even I sometimes wish I could just blend in. Whether it be a bad hair day, or a sick day, or just a day where you don’t want to talk to anyone, there are some times when you just want to be another face in the crowd so you don’t have to deal with anyone. You do not get this luxury at a small school. If your hair looks bad or your jeans have a hole in them, you feel like everyone is staring at you. If you’re in a bad mood, someone will still say hi to you in the hallway and you still have to smile and wave back, because they will notice if you don’t. Standing out can be a good thing, but never getting the protection of a crowd sometimes really sucks.
3. Knowing every single thing about every single person in the town
You’ve gone to school with most of these people since you were eight years old (or younger), so you know everything. You could tell me the name of someone in my grade, and I could probably tell you what they want to study, what side of town they live on, if they have any siblings, and where they’re going to college.
4. New kids are a big deal
Most new kid stories are that they felt forgotten and lost in such a big, scary school. Not in small schools! Every couple years when there was a new kid, everyone would want to talk to them, because we had been stuck talking to the same people for the last 12 years of our lives!
5. It’s hard to make new friends
Your friend pool is so small that having more than 5 close friends is a rarity for most people. Once you weed out the mean people, the annoying people, the people you don’t really click with, and the people who have no interest in you, you’re down to a low number of potential best friends.
6. On that note ... the dating pool is even smaller!
Most people’s boyfriends come from out of town, because who wants to date the kid who knew you when you had braces or the girl who saw you pee your pants in 1st grade? Better to find someone who can know you for the person you are now and not the acne-covered tween you were then!
7. Teachers are weirdly close to their students
Not in a bad way, but I know a lot of people at my school who are really close to one teacher or another. Whether it's the advisor to a club or the teacher of your favorite subject, odds are that every student in a small school has a teacher that they can go to for anything.
8. It forced you to make friends out of school
Because your school was so small, you knew that going out of town was your only hope to make more than two friends! This forced you to get out of your comfort zone and find new people to hang out with, who might have later turned into your best friends.
10 Times We All Related To Chandler Bing On A Spiritual Level
"I'm hopeless and awkward and desperate for love"
I'm assuming that we've all heard of the hit 90's TV series, Friends, right? Who hasn't? Admittedly, I had pretty low expectations when I first started binge watching the show on Netflix, but I quickly became addicted.
Without a doubt, Chandler Bing is the most relatable character, and there isn't an episode where I don't find myself thinking, Yup, Iam definitely the Chandler of my friend group.
Here are 10 Chandler moments that made us all see the "Chan Chan Man" within all of us.
I mean, besides this obvious one:
1. That Time He Tested Out His Flirting Skills and This Happened
2. When He Was Willing to Do Anything to Avoid Confrontation
3. When He Couldn't Handle Awkward, Emotional Situations
But, hey, at least he owns up to it!
4. How He Reacted Whenever His Friends Ignored Him
5. All of the Times He Worried About His Failing Love Life
6. Whenever He Tried to Whip Himself Into Shape
He tried really hard.
7. How He Handled New People and New Experiences
8. Whenever His Friends Got Annoying, He Was Always the Voice of Reason
9. He Always Knew How to Jam
10. He Finds a Way to Make Any Situation More Fun
Sure, he may be awkward and desperate for love, but if you're the Chandler of the group, your flaws just make you even more adorable!
Working with the public can be a job, in and of itself. Some people are just plain rude for no reason. But regardless of how your day is going, always having to be in the best of moods, or at least act like it... right?
1. When a customer wants to return a product, hands you the receipt, where is printed "ALL SALES ARE FINAL" in all caps.
2. Just because you might be having a bad day, and you're in a crappy mood, doesn't make it okay for you to yell at me or be rude to me. I'm a person with feelings, just like you.
3. People refusing to be put on hold when a customer is standing right in front of you. Oh, how I wish I could just hang up on you!
4. Having the same conversations over and over again! To be honest I really don't even want to talk to you right now, or have this fake ass smile on my face!
5. Always having to have a smile on your face. I promise I'm not as happy as I may look!
6. Customers not understanding that sometimes, mistakes happen. I am a human being, we all mess up sometimes!
7. Having the boss from hell, it's their way or the highway! Even though I did my job correctly and efficiently, if I don't do it the exact way you do, I'm a piece of shit.
8. Having coworker who don't help out, who bend the rules just enough to screw you over.
9. Having to be at work after closing because a customer is taking forever and half! Not like I'd like to go home or anything!
10. Having shitty hours and more shifts than you asked for. Just because we don't have enough workers, doesn't mean I want to pick up every shift that you cant cover, oh great boss of mine!
11. Not having time for a social life. It gets old saying, "I can't I have work..." Every day of the week!
12. Having that lazy costumer who can't do anything for themselves... no please I'll get that, it's no problem at all!
I enjoy my job don't get me wrong... but sometimes all I have to say is IT GETS OLD!
11 Things That Happen When You Suffer From Resting B*tch Face
It's just my face, I swear.
RBF, or resting b*tch face, is a serious condition that many people suffer from worldwide. Suffers are often bombarded with daily questions such as "Are you OK?" and "Why are you so mad?" If you have RBF, you've probably had numerous people tell you to "just smile!"
While this question trend can get annoying, there are a couple of pros to having RBF.
For example, you are never stopped by people in the mall trying to sell you stuff, and it's secretly fun to hear that someone was a little intimidated by you when you first met.
That being said, the downside is that people always think you hate them and social events are tragic because you always looked pissed off or bored. In the end, no matter how extreme your RBF is, you probably encounter/have encountered a handful of these 11 situations.
1. When you meet new people, they automatically assume you hate them or are rude.
But the whole time you talked to them you tried really hard to seem happy and friendly and genuinely thought you pulled it off.
2. People are constantly asking you if you're OK.
And you can't help but roll your eyes, which probably doesn't help your case.
3. After being friends with someone for a while, they confess to you, "I thought you were so mean when I first met you," or, "I thought you hated me."
Not like you haven't heard that before. It's expected and doesn't even come as a surprise anymore.
4. You get told to smile more, but they don't understand how scary that would be.
You smiling 24/7 is way worse than your mean face. Trust me.
5. You're always labeled as seeming "judgy."
You gave up on trying to convince everyone that it's just your face!
6. Passing a friend with your RBF in full force and not realizing you just shot them a death glare.
Whoops. Better go send them an apology text.
7. Being sarcastic, but everyone thinks you're outright rude.
Probably because your face doesn't really signal that you're joking, but you've learned to make it clear you're just kidding by laughing obnoxiously.
8. Not knowing how mean you really look until you see a picture of yourself in resting face.
And you think, "maybe that's why people don't talk to me..."
9. Your apologies never sound sincere because of your emotionless face.
It's a cold world out there for people with RBF.
10. Your "mad face" scares you.
*shudders*
11. And, lastly, people are constantly asking you if you are happy or having a good time because you look bored to death.
"I can't repeat it enough that it is just my face."