Dear former BFF,

You were the "best friend" I settled for throughout growing up. I felt like every girl in high school had their best friend, and let's admit it, a lot of it was probably fake, but there were girls that really did find there best friend early in life. All I have ever wanted since I was a little girl was to have that best friend. I was outgoing, happy, almost too nice of a little girl growing up in a city in Orange County (which is filled with rich, selfish, and dependent kids). I was an outsider because of my personality. However, I can tell you that now that I am old enough to see my self-worth after having to grow up with mean kids and have spent a year at a different college than my "best friend", there are way better people out there, that deserve my friendship. You know how I know? I have experienced this situation first hand.

In high school, I fit in decently and averagely. I was very good in athletics, pretty solid in academics, and a budding fashionista. However, I never felt that I found my best friend. You and I had grown up hanging out with each other and I thought that would be enough to make us best friends forever because we would spend all of our time together. I have learned that time is not all that makes up a best friend, but the trust and love you have for each other is just as important. Those are few feelings I have not felt with my time of knowing you, and in fact, never have I felt that you really cared about our friendship. I won't blame all of those feelings on you because I believe it's just part of your personality which is being "lazy". I'm lucky, because now I view my life and the people in it, to be very special. I only allow people to be part of my life, if they will really contribute to making my life better. Not until I left for college did I realize that I'm too good for you.

When coming back from college, I didn't feel the need to call you right away. Which is sad, because who wouldn't want to call their "best friend" right away after months of not hanging out? I met a lot of people at school. Like, man, you meet some of the most influential people in your life and they change you--hopefully for the good. In my experience, I met not one, but I would say two maybe three lifelong friends. We text each other everyday during the summer. How come, I never felt the need to text you like I did with my college friends? I start to see now as I grow up, we change... a lot. We have different interests and I guess that's okay. It's sad to think we were once best friends, and now I don't even want to hang out. I thank my old "best friend" for making me grow and to think for my self. You were not awful, but because now I don't have time to put in effort for people who aren't worth it, I have chosen my friends much more wisely.

Sincerely,

Your Former BFF