I am dedicating this article to all the infertile women in the world.
Though we may never meet each other, we share something special.
To the next infertile woman,
Welcome to the family! You may have just received the news that you are infertile and you don't exactly know how to process it. Your head is spinning. You may be feeling sick from realizing your body won't be capable of bearing a child. Take a deep breath, you'll get through it.
I am here to let you know that you will survive this. Yes, at first it feels like your entire world is crumbling down, that you will never fulfill your duty as a woman because you can't get pregnant and that no one will ever love you. Think again.
There are hundreds of thousands of women that love you and know exactly how you feel, including myself.
I know that you feel miserable knowing that you will never experience the anxiety of peeing on a pregnancy test, planning your baby shower or delivering a baby. You have to remember this is something you had no control over.
You feel less of a woman. You begin to feel powerless, likes there's no point to living but there is... you have to live for yourself.
Finding out that you're infertile can really mess up your life; I want you to start a journal and keep track of your thoughts because one can go insane if they keep the emotions bottled up inside.
Though knowing that you can't get pregnant becomes an obsession you think about 24/7, remember to keep your sanity.
Your desire to become pregnant is the only thing you will think of.
Don't let infertility take over your life.
You're thinking that you will never find a man who will love you because you can't give him a child. This, I wish I could say I have a straight answer, but the real answer lies within yourself. Let yourself open up to a man, don't scare him away. Open up and see how things go.
You're thinking if it's that hard to find a man, you'll never get married and your future mother-in-law will hate you.
Don't lose your faith in mankind.
You will be the envy of your friends. They will tell you how lucky you are to have all the unprotected sex you want without worrying about a pregnancy scare. Though they are partially right, there's more to unprotected sex. There are still diseases to be cautious about.
Your mom will try and cope with you and tell you she understands but the truth is she doesn't. She's had a child of her own, she has lived through motherhood and the thought of being an infertile woman cannot process through her head clearly.
You will receive rude comments like: Maybe you weren't meant to be a mom, Maybe you're meant to live a child-free life, you can always adopt, etc.
Don't let the comments get to you. You are worthy of living the best life you can ever have.
I ask that you never blame yourself for being infertile because you've done nothing wrong.
I know all of this because I was once in your shoes, and still am.
If you need someone to talk to, I am always here to share my love. We share something only you and I will ever comprehend.