Dear reader,
So it's your freshman year in college, you're finally out on your own and everything is going great. You meet a boy and at the time he is your Prince Charming. When he texts you, you get butterflies. Your first kiss is filled with fireworks and is life changing. This boy is everything you have ever asked for and more. But then in the blink of an eye everything changes. You find out that your "perfect" boyfriend actually isn't perfect at all, or anywhere close. Finding out someone that was supposed to be the love of your life has cheated on you has to be one of the worst things I've ever felt. You are going to feel as if your world has been shattered. But I am here to tell you that you WILL make it through this and you WILL be okay. At first, you are going to feel hurt so you are going to cry, you might cry for hours and you might cry for days. Every time you see something that reminds you of this boy, you are going to cry. Every time you hear a song that the two of you use to sing together, you are going to cry. Every time you feel like you're not going to cry, you are going to cry. Crying is part of the hurt and I know it feels like the end of the world but I promise it's not.
Then you are going to feel sorry for yourself. You're going to feel as if you will never find another person to love you the way he did. And you're going to feel as if you can't go on with your life, you might even have some suicidal thoughts. But you will find someone else to love when the time is right. The worst stage you will go through is the part where you begin to blame yourself. You will begin to ask yourself what you did wrong or start telling yourself that maybe if you hadn't put on that extra weight last month then he wouldn't have cheated on you. You question every move you made and every text you sent, wondering where it was that you went wrong. And you will begin to beat yourself up about this. But anything you might have done wrong or anything you might have said is not an excuse for someone to cheat on you. You are beautiful and an amazing human being with many great qualities that the right person will love and never take for granted.
Lastly you are going to get angry. You will feel anger towards the girl he cheated on you with, and then you will feel anger towards him. You will want to get even or you will want to say hurtful and mean things to both of them. But my advice for you is to save you breath and time. They are not worth it. The best thing you can do for yourself is to forgive and move on. It might take some time, but that's okay. You are allowed to as take long as you want to get over this. Because I promise you that one day this boy will look back and wonder why he cheated on you and put you through all this hurt, and by this time you will have found your real Prince Charming.
Sincerely,
The girl who was cheated on.
