Sister, I wish I could say something to make it all better. I wish there was a magic potion you could take to wipe away all the pain and sadness. Most of all, I wish there was something I could do to keep you from feeling this way. Because believe it or not, I know exactly what this feeling is like. I know what it's like to get your heart broken by a guy who doesn't deserve you. I know what it's like to put in all the effort you can to make it work only to have them not care. And, unfortunately, I know exactly what it's like to give someone your heart only to have it thrown away, uncared for and unwanted.

Relationships suck, but what sucks more than relationships is losing your first love. That shit hurts. That's the kind of pain that is unbearable and indescribable, something that still hurts the same every single day. Not because they were bad to you, that's not the hard part. If we could simply focus on everything horrible they did to us then getting over them wouldn't be nearly as difficult. No, the most difficult part is remembering all the times that they were good to you, where it all went wrong, and why in the hell you still desperately want them when you know they were so toxic for you. You become obsessive, going over every single small detail in the back of your mind, trying to rewind to when they stopped caring or wanting you, to when something in them said that you're no longer worth their time. Why? How? When? All endless questions that swarm through your mind and haunt every thought and dream. From the time you wake up until the time you go to bed, you can't stop thinking about them. And then you think to yourself "When will I ever be over them?"

Here's the hard thing about getting over someone, there is no exact timeline. There is no magical clock or calendar that will appear and tell you what day you will finally wake up and they won't be your first thought. But I can promise you this: you will get over them. There will come a time when you will no longer think about them obsessively. There will come a time when you won't go on their social media page every day to see what they're up to, or jump every time your phone goes off and a new number appears on the screen. There will come a time when you won't surf through your pictures to find the ones of you two looking happy together. And, finally, there will come a time when you won't want to be with them anymore. It may seem so far away, but there will come a time when they won't matter to you anymore. You'll see a picture of them come up on Facebook or Instagram and you're heart won't sink to the bottom of your chest. Instead, you'll keep scrolling through your news feed, you'll keep going about your daily life, and you won't think about it the rest of the day. You'll be at complete peace, and you won't care. Because you've moved on, and you have better and more important things in your life now.

Although I can promise you these things, it still doesn't take away everything you feel right now. And trust me, nothing kills me more than watching you be sad. I wish I could take that broken heart of yours and sew it on up. I wish I could find you the perfect guy and have him sweep you off your feet so you completely forget about the jerk that broke your heart. I wish I could walk up to him and smack him across the face (without getting an assault charge). But if anything, take comfort in this: I love you with all my heart, and I know there are so many other people who love you as well. There are so many others out there who want nothing more than to see you happy and bright again. We want to see that massive smile across your face and hear that hearty laugh of yours that we haven't heard in so long. We know you're going through a lot, and we know it's going to take some time for you to be truly happy again. But we will help you get through everything until that day comes, and I promise to stay by your side the whole way. I promise to be that listening ear whenever you need to talk, I promise to be that big teddy bear hug whenever you need to be held, and most of all I promise to remind you of your worth every single day, and how much more you deserve in this world. Because you're my sister, and I will always love you.