Obesity is often passed down in the genes of people's families. It's not a lifestyle we chose to live, it was something we were born into. Yes, we do have faults, we could watch what we eat, and eat much healthier, but when we have people breathing down our necks about loosing weight we tend to get nervous, and upset, and then turn to food for comfort. Just as some of you "Normal Size" guys do.
Bugging us and bugging us about loosing weight probably isn't going to help the situation, especially when we are self conscious as it is. Something that I've learned, is that I'm terrified to exercise on my own. I feel like if I'm walking a path in my city, or if I go to the gym, people are going to judge me, simply because I am overweight. If you're looking to help someone, why don't you actually invite them to go on a walk with you, or invite them to go to the gym. That's a much better approach than just saying, "Hey, I think you need to loose some weight.", that's just intimidating! Be supportive in a positive motivating way, to uplift us.
We also want to be seen as normal people, not just "That's big girl/boy" or "That fat kid". I don't see why you have to say things like that when you are trying to point us out, its also extremely insulting. Whenever you judge us so harshly, some of us take it to heart. People would become bulimic, or would just stop eating. I know for a fact, that is more unhealthy than being overweight. It's like we are seen as a different species, or something that's from out of this world, when in all of reality we are just like all of you.
Dating is also something I worry about, because I'm overweight. My mom always told me, and I believe, you should fall in love with someone by their character, and personality. Someone who is loving, and can take care of themselves. Sometimes I feel like guys would be embarrassed to be seen with an obese girl, or vice versa. I think everyone is beautiful in their own way, overweight or not. Why don't you just go for something you want no matter what anyone says. It just might be the best decision you'll ever make. I believe that everyone deserves to be in love.
