Dear Best Friend,

You are about to embark on a whole new adventure in your life. Eighteen years has been leading up to this moment, and I could not be more proud of you for taking this step. College is said to be the best years of your life. It is where you forge eternal friendships, discover yourself, and set the stage for the rest of your life. Yet, there are a few things I want you to remember on this journey.

Chiefly, take this time in your life to become the best version of yourself. Over the years, we have conformed to become what we think society and the cool kids wanted. It is time to abandon those ideals and become the person you always dreamed you would be. Explore the things around you, open yourself to new experiences, and embrace every second you have. You are going to get lost before you find yourself, and that is okay. There is an amazing person lying underneath the walls you have built up; let that individual shine through.

Additionally, realize that it is okay to be stressed and sad. College is a time of transition. It is the first time you are away from your friends and family. You are truly on your own. Allow yourself time to adjust to your new routine and surroundings. That said, even when you are adjusted, it is okay to not be happy one hundred percent of the time. College will be some of the best years of your life, but it will also be some of the worst. You are human, you do have feelings. Before you jump to conclusions about how happy everyone else is, go talk to a friend. It is surprising how many people feel lost and directionless at some point. Take charge of your feelings and know that it will get better.

Also, be selective of people you spend time with. Just because you are starting a new life in a new place doesn’t mean that everyone has to like you. Always be respectful, but surround yourself with people who make you better. Anyone who makes you feel less than incredible, kick them to the curb. They are not worth your time or effort. The same goes for boyfriends. Remember that you deserve the best life has to offer. Do not play his games. If he is making you wait for him, flirting with some other girl, or is rude to you, then you don’t want him. Stop waiting for him to see how unbelievable you are and start making time for the ones who saw it from the beginning. Love yourself enough to know the difference between good friends and transient ones.

For what it is worth, I know you are bound to do great things with your life. Remember to have fun and not take yourself too seriously. I can’t wait to swap stories about our first days.

Love,

Your Forever Friend