Sometimes, the hardest part of love is letting go.
I’m a firm believer that, at some point in everyone’s life, you will run across someone you love, truly and deeply, in a way you have never experienced. And although you love them, that person isn’t who you are meant for. That person can’t provide you with the attention, the affection, the love that you deserve.
And you will make excuses for them. Even when the truth is staring you in the eyes. Hell, even if the truth slapped you, you wouldn’t admit it. My coach always tells me, “One is excuse is as good as another, because they always work.”
Your own logic is undoubtedly your worst enemy... and a close runner up is pride. Because no one, and I mean no one, wants to admit they were wrong. After they defended that person to countless people, why would they? And after they wasted often an unbelievable amount of time, why be a “quitter?”
For your own sanity.
That’s why.
You are worth so much more than his excuses, if he even bothers to make them. You are worth more than the ignored phone calls, unanswered texts, cancelled plans, sleepless nights, waking up to an empty bed wondering if he’s doing the same.
You deserve better.
No matter what you may think, you deserve so much more.
Telling yourself, every day, that he will learn to love you the way you had hoped, and that he will be better for you if you just give it time, isn’t true.
Believing that you are the problem will drive you insane. If someone doesn’t love you, no change you make to yourself or your situation will change that.
It’s his loss.
Live your life for you, not some mediocre man-child you have convinced yourself is the one.
Be strong for you and for your future and embrace life.
Because you deserve the utmost life has to offer, not someone who wouldn’t spend a voluntary minute without you.
Get out there and live.
Your knight in shining armor will catch up, and in the meantime, go make memories that you will never forget, friends that you will never use and a life you can truly be proud of with no regrets and no what-ifs.
It may seem impossible to leave behind someone you have worked so hard to convince yourself is your dream guy, but the benefits are so worth it. Trust me.