When a skinny girl has stretch marks everyone talks about her journey and how happy they are that she's succeeding on her weight loss journey. It's sunshine and rainbows for them. When it comes to big women and stretch marks, IMMEDIATELY, we need to cover up. IMMEDIATELY, people are giving you stretch mark fading cream suggestions. It's as though we can't be praised for gaining weight or feeling comfortable in our own skin pretty much. It's painful and honestly, entirely hurtful for anyone to do this to any human being. Let me break it down for you.
How to talk to a big girl about her weight: DON'T!
It does not matter what situation you are in. It does not matter who you are talking to or how long you have known that person. If the designated curvy person does not bring up their size then NEITHER DO YOU. Just admire them and keep all of your comments and questions to yourself. Society has the world set up to literally despise how a big girl looks. How they are supposed to feel and look at themselves. The cute clothes are always way too small and all of the (cheaper) big clothes look like curtains. Go ahead. You can laugh. It's disgustingly true.
MOVING ALONG!
How to discuss a diet plan or workout routine to your thick friend: DON'T!
Once again, do not bring up subjects about their weight if you are not invited to do so. Saying something as simple as: "Oh! I know of a great workout routine for you. It helped my cousin shave down 10lbs in like a month," could come off as harmful. Of course, you mean no harm. You just wanted to help. You didn't mean anything by it except what you said. But saying something along the lines of getting them to lose weight without knowing whether or not they want too... is rude. As blatant as that is, it's flat out rude. Big men and women always have to worry about how people are looking at them, to begin with, let's not make it worse by giving them diet plan links and gym membership deals.
Here's what you need to understand:
Most people love the skin they're in. Most people love being a thick girl or a thick man. They love how they look and wouldn't change it for the world. They don't need their friends becoming sudden doctors to talk to them about losing weight. None of that is cool. Let them love themselves without you being worried about their weight. If they are happy about it, then you should be happy as well. That's it and that's all. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
