The Bachelor is a controversial topic when it comes to reality: is it real or not? Are the relationships real? Can you really fall in love so fast? How can someone love tore than one person at the same time? Despite the controversy of reality, fancy clothing, the elaborate dates, and the short two/three months to fall in love, The Bachelor has hidden lessons within the show.

People automatically judge me when I tell them that I enjoy the ABC show, The Bachelor. Little do they know, I get much more out of the show than watching lavish dates and emotional roller coaster rides.

Here are 6 lessons to be learned from watching The Bachelor:

1. When to stop drinking.

We've all watched women have one too many on this first night of the show, embarrassing themselves in front of the whole nation. It teaches us to learn our limits, to know when enough is enough.

2. Traits you like in a person and yourself.

You automatically identify yourself with how you would handle a situation, confront a person, or how you show would show your affection and adoration towards someone. You notice things in personalities that you just cannot stand or things you do want in a partner.

3. You don't have to like someone just because they like you.

Several contestants have taken themselves off of the show due to their lack of feelings or attraction with the bachelor or bachelorette. This shows that just because someone shows interest in you, doesn't mean you have to force the feelings back.

4. It is okay to put your heart on the line.

Opening up isn't easy, and neither is trusting people, but there is no way someone will get to know the real you unless you are being real with yourself. You don't have to share your whole story, but you have to be able to share your true self.

5. Rejection hurts but better things are ahead.

Absolutely no one likes the feeling of being rejected, unwanted or unloved. But the truth behind it all is that better things are in the future. Everything happens for a reason.

6. Relationships are a learning process.

It's not always going to be easy, and the outcome might not always be what you have hoped or dreamed, but all relationships are a learning process, trial and error, success and failure.

So, here's to all the hopeless romantic in all of us; the happy, extravegant fairytale love commonly desired. Happiness within relationships is obtainable and the lessons learned from watching others may help you.