Trauma is an entity that affects many people in this world. For some, it happens a lot, and for others, it happens maybe only a handful of times. Regardless, trauma is a dark and powerful thing, and it's real, whether we like it or not.

You see, when something dark like this happens, it tries to control us. It toys with our emotions, our social lives, or friendships, our relationships, anything it can get its dirty hands on. It takes control of whatever you let it.

To get past a trauma, you need to take control if it. Taking control of something like this is not easy, and there is a process that needs to take place in order for this to happen.

First, you need to validate that the trauma happened. This may seem unnecessary, but you need to admit that it happened in order to heal properly. This can cause a rush of emotion to overtake you. This is also necessary. Any emotions you feel during this demands to be felt, and absolutely needs to be validated as well. If you don't experience these emotions now, it will creep up and strike you at a time where you really won't need it.

Secondly, after you've validated that it happened, you need to separate yourself from the situation. By doing this, you take out anything that may be interfering between you and your feeling. It gets rid of any distraction and anyone who isn't helping the situation.

As soon as you see yourself separate from the trauma, you need to visualize what you want for yourself. This could be a number of things. Maybe you want to be happier. Maybe you want a new job. Maybe you want a new friend group. Whatever the case may be, as soon as you realize what you want for yourself, you need to make a list of steps needed to achieve whatever it is what you want. Realize that this may too take some time to achieve, but trust me when I say that putting in the work to be healed is worth it.

The universe has a funny way of going about things like trauma. It allows us to experience something dark, and then somehow, some form of light and good ends up coming out of it. But, it's only when we ditch all the crap that happens in our life, and visualize what we truly desire, and set goals for ourselves, that we truly experience trauma the way it was set up to be like. By experiencing the trauma, we actually give ourselves more meaning, and our lives become way better than it was before we experience whatever it is we desired not to happen.

So, my message to anyone experiencing a trauma, or is still dealing with the effects of something that happened recently is this: You are loved. You are okay. You are, and have always been enough, you will come out of this on top. This trauma doesn't define who you are, but instead makes you stronger and more confident than you ever were before, and this alone makes the temporary pain worth it.