1. Father: How to harden my heart and why that is necessary.

2. Mother: How to embrace my natural tenderheartedness.

3. Stepmother: That men can be manipulated.

4. Mother: That true love would never do that. And that it would never make one feel that's the only way to have power in a relationship.

5. Father: How to be the life of the party.

6. Stepfather: That silence can be golden.

7. Father: That some people's love isn't enough.

8. Mother: That love is still worth trying for.

9. Father: That how you present yourself to the world is important.

10. Stepfather: That your happiness is worth more than your image.

11. Myself

And finally, from myself and years of hard work with at least 7 therapists, I've begun to sort through all of this. I've learned which parts could be learned from, which set a good example, and which I must work to forgive for my own sake. All of my parents and parental figures did good things and made mistakes, and for a long time, it was hard to come to terms with that.