This one is for all you single ladies out there, myself included. I've learned a lot from watching my friends go in and out of relationships, listening to stories about my parents as teenagers, and just simply looking around me. All my life I've had guy best friends so I know how they think, some are better than others, but at the end of the day they're all still guys and most of them think quite similar thoughts. As a girl I know how bad a heartbreak hurts and that we never hope to encounter it again, but don't let that stop you from taking chances. You live and you learn, and here is what I've learned.
1. If He Wants To Be With You, He Will Make An Effort.
Never beg a guy for the things you want and know you deserve, if he is your "Mr.Right" he will give you everything you deserve and more. I'm not saying guys should have to put in all the effort either, if you like a guy go for it, but if he doesn't acknowledge a great thing when it's standing in front of him then let him go. If he is putting more effort into blowing you off, being short in messages, or just completely ignoring you then he isn't worth your time. I've learned that if a guy wants to call, he will call, and even if he doesn't have time, he will find time. Every girl deserves to be chased after so make sure you're not wasting your time trying to be with someone that isn't giving you anything in return.
2. Never Judge A Book By Its Cover
A good personality can go a long way, perhaps not ALL the way, but it can cover some distance. I hear my friends all the time saying that the "nice guys finish last," and a lot of times that is true. Us girls tend to go after the immediate eye candy, and maybe that's not always the best choice. Step out of your comfort zone of dating the guy with the 10/10 looks and maybe listen to what the other guys have to say... sometimes a good conversation can draw you in just as much as good looks would.
3. Never Settle
Don't ever decide that it would be much better to be unhappy than be alone. There IS someone out there for you, maybe you just haven't met them yet. If you're with the guy you think is "The One," and he isn't treating you like you should be treated then forget him, chances are there is someone out there who would love to take that guys place and do anything to make you happy.
4. Don't Let the Fear of Striking Out Keep You From Playing the Game
Dating is a rough game and sometimes can be a little scary. You will experience love and loss... and it's a lot easier to fall in love then it is to fall out of love. When a relationship doesn't work out, of course you will be upset, just don't let it consume your life. The next guy that comes along, you will probably be apprehensive, but don't deny him a chance because you're afraid of getting hurt, it could end up going really well.
5. It IS Okay To Be Single
In your lifetime you may only get one moment where you are truly alone... no parents, no boys, no attachments. This time that you have to be alone, cherish it. Don't spend all of your time trying to find that special someone, focus on yourself, figure out who it is that you want to be. Be a strong independent women and never rely on anyone else to make you happy. If you're single at a young age, GOOD, that means you're capable of having so much more fun than anyone tied down right now, so embrace being single instead of worrying that you're not in a relationship.
There's my advice, whether you choose to take it or not, I'll be right here dishing it out behind the keyboard.
