My father's favorite word is DETERMINATION. Even though I learned this word in French, eventually I realized it was the same exact word in English, with an accent over the first E of course. Since age 8 my father used to make me promise to him after coming home with a bad report card, and I would be crying and tearing; terrified of a major consequence that I would have to suffer. He would definitely yell and scream in French, English and our native language. Getting scolded in a multitude of languages all at once is an experience that I'm sure only children in my same situation can identify with. Every time, once he would calm down he would call me, and I would reply saying yes, or “naam”

He would tell me how if he wasn’t determined and blessed he would not be in the position that he is in right now. He is the sole breadwinner of his entire family here and back home. He would end the conversation by saying “Nakissi, promise me you will work harder you will be determined to do better, I’m counting on you”. I would promise him that I would and every time I promised my father something I felt like I had made a promise with God … I had to make it happen for real!

1. Determination.

2. He also taught me the value of your word, when you say you will do something…do it.

3. your future is what matters, how you start is not how you will end.

4. Do not count on other people to get what you want

5. Lead by example …always!