I think it's safe to say that a majority of us have had our fair share of heartache. If you are one of those persons - I'm truly sorry. I can honestly say I know how you feel, and it sucks. Sometimes we don't get a say in the matter, it just happens and you have to live with it. I think that's when it hurts the most -- when you can't control it and you don't see it coming.
Relationships are scary in my opinion. They can end one of two ways: you either break up with that person or you marry them. If you're like me, and you take dating seriously, then the breakups hit you a little harder. Because not only did you spend all this time sharing the best and worst parts of yourself with someone, but now you'll have to do it all over again.
My heart has been broken a couple times. And no, it doesn't get any easier. It was actually worse because I blamed myself for being in a position to have my heart broken again. Hopefully, now I've learned my lesson. Through my experiences, I've learned a couple things, and I want to share them and hopefully they will help whoever may need them.
1. Love is not enough
Growing up and watching Disney movies, we are taught that love can do anything. Love can stand the test of time and love knows no distance. In some cases (the lucky ones), that's true. But most of the time, a relationship needs more than that. It needs communication, honesty, loyalty, and most importantly -- trust.
2. Time heals all
You know the saying: time heals all wounds ... It's true! When people tell you it'll get better with time -- they're right. No one knows how much time it will take. It could take a couple weeks, a few months, a year. Just remember that each day will get a little easier, and without realizing it, you'll start to think about it less and less.
3. Surround yourself with friends
The best way to get through this difficult time is by surrounding yourself with your closest friends. Friends instinctively know what to do. They'll keep you busy enough so you don't have time to wallow in sadness. Ice cream is always involved.
4. Your family may or may not be the best support system
As weird as that sounds, it's true. Depending on the situation (and the person), your family may be happy that you are no longer with that particular person. Of course, they are not happy that you are broken-hearted, but they recognize that the breakup was in your best interests (even if you don't realize it at first). Regardless, they are going to be there for you and do whatever they can to help you through it.
5. Someone better is coming
There will be a period when you tell yourself that you'll never be able to love another person again. For a while, you may even believe it. But don't let those thoughts consume your mind. You'll stop yourself from getting back out there and allowing yourself to find someone. Have faith that your person is out there, and your paths are going to cross sooner rather than later.
6. Love yourself -- always
No matter your status: married, in a relationship, single, it's complicated - always make sure to love yourself. How can you expect someone to love you if you can't even love yourself? You are the only person you get to live with your entire life, so make sure to love every little thing: your smile, your body, your intellect, your hopes and dreams, and even your flaws. One day, someone else will too.
