Before you begin reading, yes I am single and no I am not bitter about it. Obviously, I don't want to end up alone but I have to come realize that I am whole even by myself. I think as humans we feed off of attention and affection. Some of us need to be in a relationship to feel complete or accomplished. I used to be this way. However, after allowing myself to be single for over a year now, I have learned:
1. My self-worth.
It is so easy to feel confident when someone is constantly telling you that you are pretty or smart. Don't get me wrong, boys are always in my Instagram messages telling me this as well, but I don't feed off of it.
I have had every opportunity to have a significant other, but I know what I deserve and I am not going to settle. I am overwhelmingly happy being alone and until I find someone who is also happy being alone, I will stay single. You can't truly love someone else if you don't love yourself first.
2. How to be alone.
A lot of people on my Facebook feed jump from one relationship to another claiming they are "the happiest" they have ever been. I literally can't keep up. I think part of this stems from the idea that being alone is scary. It is not. Being able to be alone, whether it be home alone or going to the movies alone, is a great way to discover yourself and really reflect on what you want in a partner.
3. That my soul is one-of-a-kind.
I am not willing to give myself to anyone and everyone. Only specially picked people get to receive my energy and my vibes. I know this sounds like I'm a narcissist, but really I owe it to myself to protect my heart and my soul. Being single has given me to the opportunity to dig deep into my soul and what makes my light shine. Do yourself a favor and discover your soul.
4. That God has a plan.
Over the past year or so I have gone through every emotion. I thought I wanted a relationship with someone who turned out to be everything I didn't want. You may think you're ready and you may feel frustrated with the timing, but don't worry, God always has a plan. It wasn't meant to be and you will see that eventually.
