A Lady In The Streets And A Freak In The Sheets | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Politics and Activism

A Lady In The Streets And A Freak In The Sheets

You define you, not a double standard.

2094
A Lady In The Streets And A Freak In The Sheets
Getty Images

When asked about their dream women, men often say “I want a woman who’s a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets.” This is especially true for college-aged relationships, as they are usually charged with more sexuality than other ages. Let me tell you right now that you don’t have to conform to acting a certain way to get someone to like. This is applicable across the board, but especially with the way that men expect women to be.

In online publications there are many websites dedicated to sex journalism. While I commend these people for being journalists, many of them are writing that it’s up to the woman to modify her behavior in order to get a man because a man is obviously the key to happiness. Absolute malarkey. Glamour, Cosmo, even Forbes write about modifying oneself to “land a man.” These are some of the big names, rest assured there are many smaller publications and desperate blogs dedicated to telling you how to better satisfy your man so he doesn’t stray away.

The worst part, beyond the sheer fact that these articles reach more college students than most news publications, is that they are propagating an anti-feminist approach to living. With over 15.4 million women reading Cosmo every month and 9 million daily ‘readers’ on Snapchat, I think it’s fair to blame the problem largely on the media’s portrayal of the ideal woman.

It’s ridiculous to say that a woman has to be ‘normal Jenna’ while on a date but ‘Brandi Star professional porn star’ when they have sex! With the media forcing this idea onto women and the constant insecurity that they’re not going to ‘please their man,’ it’s difficult for women to be confident in themselves. It’s up to us, as people of this generation, to say “no” to this idea.

We need to, from a young age, assure women that they don’t need a man to make them happy, successful, or fulfilled. Modern day feminism means that women should be themselves and not be forced into a societal ideology of how they should be acting. If this means embracing their sexuality then great, if it means embracing their view of purity, then great.

It’s crucial for the psychological and emotional benefit of young girls to be taught that they are not defined by what others expect of them, but instead by how they define themselves. If they are searching for a life partner then it is not their prerogative to change themselves. If we all were just a little more accepting of femininity as an individualized characteristic instead of a broad media-infused definition, we could begin to see a dramatic increase in confidence, happiness, and empowerment in women and in society as a whole.

You don’t have to be a “lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets.” You only have to be yourself. Whatever that means for you, please know that you will find people, people who genuinely love you for who you are. You really will.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
nothing on to-do list

Winter break is a cherished time for many after enduring a grueling fall semester. It’s a time of relaxation and time spent with loved ones over the holidays. However, once the new year rolls around, we’re all ready to go back to school. Here are thoughts every college student has during winter break.

Keep Reading...Show less
Relationships

10 Facts All People In A Large Family Can Confirm During The Holiday Season

The holiday season can be the best and most stressful time of the year, especially when more people are involved.

2341
kids jumping

The holidays are full of lights, sweets, sweaters, and your favorite movies. There's nothing quite like this period from the beginning of December through January. Christmas, Hanukkah, and New Years. The fun of it all.

I don't know about you but with my large Italian family something is always going on during this season. It can be the most wonderful time of the year while also being the most hectic. These are a few things you know if your family is anything like mine during this time.

Keep Reading...Show less
10 things that happen the second Thanksgiving is over
reference.com

To those who celebrate, you just spent an entire day cooking an elaborate meal with all of your favorite foods. You probably ate your body weight in pumpkin pie and mashed potatoes. What happens now? Oh yea, Christmas. It’s time to take out all of the decorations and Christmas themed things that have been sitting in the attic since last year; it’s time to make a reappearance. So, here are 10 things that happen the second Thanksgiving is over.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

18 Things I Want To Do Now That I'm 18

I'm technically an adult, so I'm legally required to live a little, right?

5114
Happy Birthday Cake

For the entirety of my high school career, I was always seen as the goody-two-shoes. I never got in trouble with a teacher, I kept stellar grades, and when I wasn't doing extracurricular activities, I was at home studying. Even when I did go out, it was usually with a bunch of fellow band geeks. The night would end before 11:00 PM and the only controversial activity would be a fight based on who unfairly won a round of Apples-to-Apples when someone else clearly had a better card (I promise I'm not still holding a grudge).

Now that I'm officially an adult, I want to pursue some new things. I want to experience life in a way that I never allowed myself to do prior to entering college. These are the years that I'm supposed to embark on a journey of self-discovery, so what better way to do that than to create a bucket list?

Keep Reading...Show less
Featured

10 Life Lessons from Christmas Classics

The holiday classics that shaped my life

3161
10 Life Lessons from Christmas Classics
Flickr

The holiday season is full of stress, debt, and forced conversation. While we rush through the month of December, it's important to take a step back and enjoy the moments before they're gone. Most families love to watch Christmas movies, but these beloved films provide more than entertainment. Here are 10 life lessons that I've learned from the holiday classics we watch every year.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments