When we think of a person being attractive, the first thing that comes to mind is normally physique. But being "pretty" will only take you so far. This is why everyone needs to have a personality. One aspect of personality is level of intelligence which varies from person to person. You may not even think about it, but do we crave intelligence? Some readers are looking at their screen puzzled while others are agreeing 100 percent. But is intelligence really attractive?
Your intelligence is shown in a number of ways. People judge you based on how you speak or in your writing. You don't even realize that you are judging at times but you formulate opinions based off of that representation of a person.
There, their, they're, you'll live if you see a few grammar mistakes. Why does intelligence get so much attention when it comes to dating or going out with someone? Let's visit some scenarios to test our tolerability for a lack of intelligence and see why.
1. Inappropriate Questions:
"Lemme hit?"
"Send me pics?"
"Wyd? (What you doing?)"
"Wya? (Where ya at?)"
"Do you smoke weed?"
"You ever get high?"
"Can you come over?"
“Netflix and chill?”
These are the kind of questions that lead you to figure out what a guy is up to. Most guys want to quench their thirst for intimacy. An intelligent guy will be more compelled to get to know who you are before asking you to take such a revealing step in your relationship. An intelligent guy knows how to be intimate with clothes on.
Any guy that constantly wants to know where you are is no good. Why does it matter when and where you are? If he cannot hold a real conversation, you have most likely been admired by a bum or a creep.
If someone wants to know right out of the gate if you do drugs, where do you think their life is headed? He's probably the kind of guy that listens to Future, but doesn't have one. Don't associate yourself with guys that only want to “chill” if you're down to smoke.
2. Too Much Slang?:
“Ayo, shawty”
“What's good, fam?”
“Baby girl, wyd?”
“Look at your cute little a**”
“She's my b****h”
“You my h**”
There is nothing wrong with slang, but the wrong amount of it will ruin first impressions. It is completely different if you already know the guy and joke around with him like that usually. If a guy just meets you and uses the above phrases, you'll most likely be offended. Certain names show you how disrespectful a guy is or how entitled a guy believes he is. A guy that believes he is entitled can actually be dangerous. If there are signs of aggression or attitude, (like in their tone) they might be abusive.
3. Does He Know His Grammars?:
Yous don't need no guy wid bad grammars. It tell you rite away intelligence level end what you is in four. Bee sure two leave any guy whose knowledge is low. Yous can't really relate too a persons you can't hold no conversation wid. Grammars is like manners. It rude two not no which your is the right you’re. Or debatin between are or is. Yous got too draw de line somewear.
Have these scenarios made you realize how important intelligence is? So you answer my question ladies. Is intelligence attractive?
Will you say he's the one or "boy bye"?