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Kindness: A Blessing And Curse

Being nice is full of rainbows and butterflies until it's not, then it's rainstorms and hornets.

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Kindness: A Blessing And Curse
Jonathan Borja
A friend to all is a friend to none

Never has a quote been so relevant.

Let me elaborate.

On any given day, I'm a happy, energetic, person that cannot stop talking and will continually be an overwhelming presence. Because of this friendly personality that I have, I tend to make friends with almost everyone I meet. Some might say that I am not a friendly person at all, but I am. I just show my love for people is strange ways. I could show it by being way too sarcastic way too many times. I could show it by being cruel in things I say and do. I could show it by not showing it at all. However, if you give me a reason to not like you, I will not like you with a burning passion that will scorch you all the way down to your soul.

So let me give you reasons why being nice, friendly, happy etc. is good.

1. You start potential long-lasting friendships

There are just some people that you'll meet who will remain a major part of your life forever. In just two weeks, I've grown incredibly close to many of the people on my floor. Their kindness and similar outlooks, beliefs, and views all serve to create this bond I've never had with people before.

2. You create a reputation for yourself as a warm-hearted person

People know you and recognize you as the person that has overly high energy and is always smiling.

3. People rely on you for emotional support

Because you're so nice, you probably have a good ear. A good amount of your friends come to you to vent or rant about their problems and hardships. The thing is you really don't mind, most of the time.

4. You remain optimistic about most things

5. It's a good thing in general


1. You get walked all over

Because you're so nice and kind, people tend to walk all over you. They assume that your niceness is a type of weakness. However, they get surprised when you become furious or upset about something.


2. You're expected to be nice all the time

One word for that:

3. People rely on you for emotional support

Yes, you're nice and you love helping people, but sometimes people can seriously talk your ear off. Sometimes I'd like to be the one talking and others listen instead.

4. When you're sad, everyone can tell

There have been so many times when I'm just dead tired and people notice I'm not chatty. What do they do? They ask and ask and ask and ask. I appreciate the people check up on me, but sometimes a person just needs some time to sulk and be alone.

5. When you need someone, there's no one

This sounds like it contradicts #4, but it doesn't. There are some things I need to talk about that I can't talk about with any person. It requires the ear of someone who has been what I have been through or at least has enough empathy to imagine it.

While there are some downsides to being so nice and friendly, I don't think I'll stop being the sunshine in peoples' lives anytime soon. Living a positive life can never do you wrong unless you let it. To all my friends out there, I'm willing to listen as long as you return the favor every now and then.

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