Do I have experience with kids? Sure! I've babysat for years, I've taught at a Vacation Bible School for a week over the course of six years...
I can honestly say that none of this had prepared me for a recent life choice I have made.
No, I did not have a kid of my own, but something very similar. I became a daycare teacher/preschool teacher.
I'm not just working with one or two children at a time, I am working with nine or 10... All at once! I seriously had no idea what i was getting myself into. At first, it seemed like all fun and games - I mean how hard can it be to watch a few little kids?! Well, let me just say, I quickly learned that it is not easy.
Firstly, the age group I work with is children between the ages of 18 months to 2 1/2. For those of you who have worked with children in this age range or who have children this age, you know that it's not the easiest age to work with. On one hand, they are learning so much and becoming independent and are somewhat self-sufficient. But, on the other hand, you need to constantly be holding their hand and watching their every move - especially if you're working with multiple kids this age.
For example, you can have two fighting over a toy and one child could lash out so you need to correct that child and let them know that what they did is wrong. But, you also need to do it and word it in a way that is age appropriate and in a way that they would understand. Also, at the same time, you need to comfort the child that has been hurt.
Now, picture this at the same time this is all going on you have two or three children climbing on a table. Keep in mind that these children are at an age where they still don't have a good sense of balance, you can see them up on that table from across the room and you can see them wobbling. It's only a matter of time until they lose their balance, fall off that table, and seriously hurt themselves. You need to be able to now hold the child you are trying to comfort WHILE trying to sprint across the room to get those children off of the table SAFELY!!
After you get these children off the table and you finally get to put down that child you had to comfort, another fight has broken out a child is screaming because they have been bit, you have another child crying because someone took a toy away and then you stop to breathe, catch your breath, and center yourself.
Just when you feel like you can go another round, every child smells like poop. It's great, I know! So, now you have to change 10 dirty diapers. This is the scary part: all of this has occurred within a solid five minutes and it's only 9 AM and your shift doesn't end until 5:30 PM. You still have eight more hours.
One of the most important lessons I have learned from working in a daycare is that this is the greatest form of birth control a young girl can have. I don't know about you, but I am only 20 and I'm still in school. I have homework and studying on top of working and trying to have a social life. I do not have the desire or the time to be dealing with a child.
Yes, of course, I will want a few kids in the future, but not for at least another five or six years. Working in a daycare has shown me that if I was to end up having a child, this scenario would be my everyday life in the near future for the next 18 years of my life. No thank you!