It's obvious that no relationship is perfect and it doesn't matter how long you've been together there will always be some little flaws in your relationship. I'm currently in a relationship that isn't perfect by any means but honestly, it's the perfect relationship for me. And when I mean perfect I mean it's honestly the healthiest relationship I could ever be and I am extremely thankful to have found such an amazing guy to have helped give me such a healthy relationship.
“A healthy relationship doesn’t drag you down. It inspires you to be better.”
This quote couldn't be more accurate. I've been in two other serious relationships that lasted for over a year. My first relationship I was only 15-16 years old and I was kinda young and naive so I honestly didn't have a clue to what exactly you could consider a healthy relationship. My second relationship was honestly a track wreck now that I look back at it but that's a different story. But this relationship, this relationship is different. But I'm not here to preach about how amazing my relationship is and whatnot, I'm here to state the things about my relationship that make it a healthy relationship as well as the key to having a healthy and successful relationship..
My Current Relationship.
I don't get to see my boyfriend very often because of his work schedule, my work schedule, and my college schedule so we currently only see other on the weekends when we have the free days to actually see each other. We haven't been officially together for that long (it'll actually be six months in February) but you can tell when you're finally in a healthy relationship and this is what my boyfriend and I have agreed on what we saw from our relationship that we both felt made our relationship healthy.
1. Letting Each Other Know We Care.
It’s always nice knowing that there’s someone other than your family who actually appreciates the things you to do as well as being proud of you.
2. Always Being There For Each Other Whether It’s Physically Or Verbally Needed.
My relationship consists of me going to school full time and working a part time job while my boyfriend works full time out of town five days out of the week. We’re usually two hours away from each other at all times so things get a little tricky but we’ve been making it work. When things get tough, it always nice knowing that you have someone who fully supports you who isn’t your Dad or Mom. There have been multiple times where I have gotten so stressed out about everything school related and my boyfriend couldn’t physically be there for me but verbally he made sure I was relaxed and calm and knew that things would be okay and things would settle down eventually.
3.Spending Every Minute We Can Together.
Like I’ve stated before, I get very limited time with my boyfriend because of our schedules but when we do get to spend time together we try to spend as much time together as we can because we never really know when the next time we can see each other will be. So it’s really nice to make sure when we do get to see each other, we are actually spending the much needed time together.
4.Always Doing Things Together.
Doing things together has been quite helpful to keeping this relationship stay on track. Whether it’s standing in the kitchen making mac-n-cheese at 2 am because you’re hungry or if it’s going grocery shopping for snacks for college. Life is all about trying new things and going on adventures, so why not make the best of it and do those activities with your significant other.
5. It's The Little Things
It’s getting excited over being able to crawl in bed together at the end of the night and laying there watching a movie or your favorite tv show and talking about your day/week (depending on the last time you’ve seen them). It's playing their favorite song on the radio even though you might hate it but you do it because you'll do anything them to hear them sing it to you.
Keys To Having A Healthy Relationship.
Here's just a small list of ten things that I had felt that was necessary to having a healthy relationship.
1. Communication Is Key.
2. Don't Hide From The Other Person.
3. Make Sure There Is Enough Trust In each Other.
4. You're Always Comfortable With Each Other.
5. Shouldn't Have To Change Yourself Just To Fit Their Likings.
6. Fall In Love With Their Goofiness.
7. Always Do The Little Things.
Whether it's opening the car door for you, letting you walk into the building before him, writing little notes to each other to remind each other how much you truly mean to the other.
8. Leave Time For Each Other.
9. Being Stuck Up Each Other's Asses Won't Work And Leave Time For Friends.
10. Pushing Your Friends Out Of Your Life For Your Relationship Will Only, In Turn, Push You Away From Each Other.