As you grow up, chances are you experience a variety of different relationships. Some of these may be romantic and some… not so romantic. Maybe these relationships consist of hook-ups, that weird “are we talking” thing, or a full blown one-on-one relationship. But, after experiencing a few good and bad relationships for myself and observing others, I am starting to see what works and what doesn’t.
The thing that bothers me most is people in immature relationships. OK, I’m a junior in college, I get it, I am not a relationship professional. But I have made a few observations that I’ve noticed are the key things of what not to do. Most of what I have learned has been from others’ relationships. And because of that, it has made me thankful that I have never experienced something like that.
Now if you haven’t caught on, I am basically talking about those couples that everyone else has an opinion on. Everyone knows how blatantly obvious it is that the two are not a good match for each other and they all watch as the mountain of love crumbles.
As my observations have told me, here are 11 things that are indicators that your relationship probably won’t work out:
1. You two start a fight about everything.
You start a fight about something when your boyfriend/girlfriend has no idea why and leave them to guess for themselves.
2. You have to be talking every second of the day.
It’s really not necessary to have 24-hour texting conversations with your face in your phone to maintain good communication
3. One of you is constantly trying to get attention.
They are constantly seeking reassurance by making you feel bad about things you say or do. In turn, you are over-apologizing and swooning them with compliments.
4. Your problems are everyone’s problems.
You are that couple that doesn't mind screaming in front of everyone about your issues.
5. Your friends hate your significant other.
He/she doesn’t try to be make conversation with your friends. They involve you in all of their fights, which means all they ever hear is you talk negatively about them. So, naturally... your friends are not going to think very highly of them.
6. You spend more time sugar-coating things than giving constructive advice.
You need someone to bring you down to earth and tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. Giving each other helpful advice about real life problems is way more important in making a relationship last.
7. Someone is always bringing up the past.
Never letting go of past issues will never give you piece with each other.
8. You’re constantly looking over their shoulder.
You can’t let them do anything without you being involved. You can’t let them text other people without looking over their shoulder to see who they are talking to. Do you really think this is a trusting relationship?
9. Friends of the opposite sex are not allowed.
Not everyone is a threat,OK?
10. When alcohol is involved, there’s always a dramatic fight.
Oh boy. Watch out. Looking at a girl the wrong way? Your girl ain’t gonna be havin’ it.
11. Having stereotypical relationship ideas.
Men don’t always have to play the role doting gentlemen. You can pay for a few meals and do things to show you care once in a while. And men can cook and clean to help out sometimes, too.
