In this world there is light and there is dark. Think of light as positiveness, happiness, success, love, positive thoughts, and positive actions. Think of dark as negativity, bad intentions, hate, pain, negative thoughts, and negative actions. Now, in this world you will struggle with darkness for as long as you live, and you will live in positivity as long as you choose to. The light can drown out the dark, but only if you truly want it, too.
Certain traumatic experiences in our lives such as bad breakups, the passing of loved ones, people moving in and out of our lives, people breaking us down with their emotional or physical abuse, can all feed the darkness. Now that we know all of these factors have a profound influence on darkness, then we must find ways to cope with them. These traumatic experiences will always stick with us and will never fade away, but with time and self growth we can learn to rebuild ourselves and learn to live with them.
Factors such as time, self growth, and possessing a positive mindset can all act as defenses against the darkness. Most of the time when you are going through a depressing time in your life you try to cope with that experience by engaging in superficial activities, but then you come to find that those activities will not heal your wounds. After awhile you begin to realize that its time that heals all wounds. Time gives you space to think about all of the different perspectives in life and also gives you a chance to clear your mind. Self growth has a direct correlation to time because both work together in unison. As time goes on you become wiser, you receive advice from others, and you gain different perspectives on life. Different experiences you go through in life help mold the person you are today. In order to gain a positive mindset these two important things must happen: time and self growth. After time has passed and after you get a chance to grow intellectually and as a person, then the positive things in life begin to become clearer. For example a bad break up can often take its toll on you. Lets say that your partner has issues they haven't deal with in the past which leads them to end the relationship. Now, you may feel a deep sense of love for this person and you may care about them very much, but you know that things will never be the same. Weeks and months can go by and you still find yourself thinking about this person, but with time the wounds slowly heal. You might start to think about how the other person in the relationship felt and you may gain a different perspective from others and you'll also have the time to figure out what's really important to you in life. Negative experiences like always being put down by others words can get to you as well. You begin to think that their words hold some truth, you begin to think that you are nothing. Your mind may think that they are right after awhile and if they are right then you really aren't worth it. You avoid relationships of all kinds, you think about harming yourself, or you dive into drugs and alcohol hoping that will heal the pain. When you meet a positive person or you take a step back from everything to clear your head. Taking a step back from everything can help you recharge and find your way back on the path to your true self. These two factors will lead you to a positive mindset about yourself and outlook on life.
This is all a journey on a windy road that will end with the sun shining.