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Forget Judgment

"Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life." -Jen Sincero

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Do you know you? Like really know you?

Have you been changed and altered by someone that isn't living freely due to societal judgments?

I want to tell you one thing: STOP. Throw all of the judgments anyone has ever told you right out of your brain. I know it's easier to remember a "you're ugly," more than a "you're beautiful," or a "you're stupid," more than a "you're smart," but the one thing that can't be stressed enough is to love YOU. Love you more than anything. Pamper Yourself. Follow your dreams. And, don't give up.

All too often society tells people who they are and what they can become. People have this notion in their minds that they are born into their destiny, rather than equal to all other humans.

Trust me, it's natural to change with time, but why is it so common to become less free and less happy with age? I don't know what changed since the time that I was 3 years old running naked on a beach, with nothing but a water-proof Huggies on, and laughing with the joy at the feel of the waves. And although I still desire, and crave for the freedom I felt, I don't remember a time in my life I've felt that happy again (since elementary school started at least). Because judgment comes roaring in, almost as if a tsunami drowning you in your blissful state at an unbelievably young age.

People aren't allowed to be themselves, and they learn that as soon as school starts, and progress with age. I remember in kindergarten being told that I was weird and getting bullied on the playground. Then in 5th grade getting told that I was "fake" and "anorexic" for being thin and having dark eyelashes. Then, in middle school getting told I was prude and going to die alone. Then in high school, being told I have 'potential,' but too bad I'm 'weird' and have bad style and read too many books.

This world drowns happiness. It looks you in the face while you are a child full of dreams and completely suffocates one's dreams with expectations of others.

Yet, YOU were not made to be just like everyone else. You were made to be perfectly YOU. Always. And although it may be frowned upon to run naked on a beach with nothing on but a Huggies diaper at 21 years old, I urge to be that happy again. And it's possible, not only for me, but for you too. But the only way to fight the judgment tsunami is to swim up! You can't keep letting others opinions push you farther and farther down. You have to let go of what others have told you. You need to LET GO of it all. and only then will you be able to get to the top of this suffocating game called life.

So many beautiful gifts you acquire have been taken away from you by societal negativity. But do you know who succeeds in the end? Those who ignore doubt.

Look at Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Jackie Robinson, Barack Obama, Charlotte Cooper, and so much more. They wouldn't be remembered today if they listened to every doubt and judgment anyone ever had about them.

And in this article about judgments, beaches, and individuality, I'd like to leave you with this: You were made for greatness, but life is funny and likes to tell you "go after your dreams... =oh wait, but not that." And I'm here to tell you to let go of it all. Let go of the "oh wait, but not that" and start asking, "okay, what's my first step?" And get rid of all of the stupid, petty insults thrown around to hurt people: such as "you're:ugly / stupid / not good enough / dress funny / too tall / too short /.." you get my point. None of those are worth the pain to hold on to. While you remember being 3 eating peanut butter out of the jar on the kitchen floor without thinking "hmmm... this isn't 'normal," go ahead and ask yourself, "to who do I have to be 'normal' for anyways?" Because 'normal' is just a judgmental persons way of expressing unappreciation in differences. And honey, you weren't made to be normal. You were made to be you. So live. Fail. Laugh. Move on. But most of all, let go.

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