As college students and Christians, dating and marriage have always been very high on our radars. We're constantly looking for the next possible Mr. Right. So, how do we meet this infamous "one"? Well, I joined five different online dating apps to shed light on one way many people nowadays are finding relationships, or so we think.
1. OkCupid
The first app I joined, OkCupid, was quite interesting. When creating my profile, I had the options to write a self-summary as well as different categories such as "I'm Really Good At..." "The Six Things I Could Never Do Without..." "On A typical Friday Night I Am..." and "You Should Message Me If..." among other questions. Then you specify who you're looking for and what you're looking for (my example: looking for single men, near me, ages 18 to 26, for short & long term dating). Then, there were a series of personality questions you could answer in different sections (they were: dating, lifestyle, ethics, and sex). Based on your answers to these questions, they can match you with people you're interested in that have a high percentage of a match in how you both answered the same question. However, anyone can message you, unlike some other dating apps, so you can get some pretty creepy guys messaging you that you definitely did not ask for. Oh, and in the span of one week, 95 different guys messaged me, so there's that...
2. Tinder
Well, this one is the most obvious and probably the commonly used "dating" app (which is hardly ever actually used for real relationships). You can swipe right if you like their profile and swipe left if you don't. If you both swiped right, you match! Once you've matched, both of you have the opportunity to message one another, which keeps a little bit more of the creepers away from your message inbox. On the profile, you can see their age, where they go to school (or where they work), and if you have any mutual Facebook friends (to prove that they're a real person). You can also connect your Instagram with the profile if you want to show off your curated feed. This specific app is mainly used for "hooking up" and since I was doing this based on actual dating, there are slim pickings for that specific quest on this app.
3. Zoosk
This app was probably the one I used the least. I found it extremely hard to navigate, and you had to pay to message anyone. For the profile, you can have your photos verified so potential matches know that's actually you in the picture. It also has categories for you to explain things like your "story" (similar to the summary or bio in the previous apps) as well as "my perfect match" and "my ideal date." You can also add some interest of yours such as music, movies, TV shows, books, sports teams, games, and people. They also have "Smart Picks," which are people that Zoosk deems to be compatible with you. I wasn't thrilled with this app at all to be honest.
4. Crosspaths
This app is basically a Christian version of Tinder, so a lot fewer people are actually looking for hookups and more are looking for real relationships. It's a very new app, so there aren't many people on it yet. However, it is a very good idea I think! When creating your profile for this one, you have to pick one of five different descriptions that accurately describes your faith.
You can also add your height, current city, add an "about me," and link your Instagram to your profile. For this app you swipe right or left and once you match, you can message each other, pretty much like Tinder.
5. Friendsy
This app is only for college students, and you need to enter your college e-mail to create an account. I really liked this one because it clearly lets you define what you're looking for based on the person. You can say you're interested in them as a friend, want to go on a date with them, or want to hook up with them. It takes a lot of the question out of online dating! People can anonymously like you and then you'll get a notification that sounds something like, "A guy from University of Wisconsin-LaCrosse in the class of 2016 wants to go on a date with you!" then you click on the notification and it pulls up 10 different guys who all fit those credentials and scroll through and click the "date" button for any guys that interest you. If it's mutual, you'll get matched and can both message each other! When you go to message this person, there's an "icebreaker" to get the conversation going such as "What is your favorite type of flower?" There's also an option on your profile to give you anonymous compliments. I got two in the span of one week! I could also include a few tags that were pre-made and you can pick up to eight. The tags I picked were Coffee Addict, Dance Machine, foodie, Knope 2012, and night owl.
So in conclusion, dating apps are kind of weird but also very innovative. It kind of takes the mystery about dating but who likes that anyways? However, right after I'm finished writing this article, I'm deleting all five and I'm 99 percent sure I won't be back on them anytime soon. Getting bombarded with messages and compliments are flattering for a little bit, but after a while you need real life connections and dating apps just won't do the trick.