There are currently 288,000,000 articles that come up when you search “how to keep him interested.” Not to mention other articles titled, “how to make him want you,” and “how to keep him interested in a relationship.” It began to make me wonder, why is this topic so popular? Why is it that women feel the need to try so desperately to keep a man’s focus on just them, something that the right man should be doing anyway? Why is it that women are willing to mold and change themselves just to hopefully please a man?

To those women: you are worth more than that. You deserve someone that loves you, faults and all. You shouldn’t have to calculate your every move for him to be interested in you. You are worthy of unconditional love. You deserve someone that believes that you are interesting. You are better than allowing someone to make you believe that you are not capable of being loved fully. Why would you want to be with someone who makes you feel unhappy with who you are? Why would you want to be with someone who makes you feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells just to be with him? If that is how he makes you feel, he does not deserve to be with you.

What every woman deserves, is a man who loves you and encourages you to love yourself. He should empower you to be the best woman that you can be. He should love you whole heartedly, just as you love him. He should smile at the fact that you snort when you laugh and he should think that you’re still strikingly beautiful with no make-up on and messy hair. That’s the kind of love that lasts. Not trying to mold into the other person’s vision of who you should be.

The most important thing for every woman to know is to love and respect themselves. Know your worth. Know that you are capable of being loved. Know that there is so much more to life than finding someone who will want you or being sad over someone who doesn’t. When you are busy loving yourself, that’s when God truly blesses you.

You deserve a man that loves you, respects you, and pursues you. Do not try to calculate your actions just to keep a man. Do not settle for a man not worthy of your love. Wait for a man that will treat you better than you could ever imagine; but until then, always value and love yourself.