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I've Been Patient, So Why Can't You?

Don't just expect me to fall into your arms because, despite my lack of experience, I'm pretty sure that's not how it works.

Melissa Walcott
Jun 25, 2018
Kennesaw State University
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I've Been Patient, So Why Can't You?
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I have been single for so long that I would consider myself to be a very patient person. Well, patient with this one particular thing. I have lasted through years of sitting on the sidelines and gazing into that very obscure horizon for Mr. Right. I have had a couple of guys where I thought, "hey this guy might be a good match" or "hey mister I think we'd be good", but to no avail.

I'm not complaining. I'm not sitting over here whining that I am single and alone and my only companionship is Netflix and takeout Chinese. Okay, I complain sometimes but that's normal, right? Right. I'm not letting my indefinite single-dom wreck my existence and ruin my life. It does get annoying sometimes when I see all of my friends loved up, but I don't let their happiness convince me that I am lacking some.

There is one thing however that I will complain about and forgive me, because I am about to step on my soap box.

I cannot stand when all a guy wants to do is rush you. It seems like everything is a race! Why can't we slow down and enjoy the ride? Why can't you just give me the time I need because I promise you, if you keep rushing, I will run. Fight or flight baby.

It also frustrates me when a guy seems to think I'm not interested because, once again, I'm not moving at the same pace as them. I'm convinced that being single for as long as I have can make a person anxious and cautious. The same goes for anything you know nothing about. I proceed with caution because guess what, I have never had my heart broken and I have never put myself out there in that way.

So, give me a break. Give me a chance to move at my own pace and start a relationship with you. I think I can be a pretty great girlfriend, but if I feel overwhelmed and rushed, I won't want to move forward with anything. Now, if I am moving so slow, you are starting to believe I'm a grandma, go ahead and give me a push but don't be a jerk about it.

If you really want my attention and love, fight for it a little. Don't just expect me to fall into your arms because, despite my lack of experience, I'm pretty sure that's not how it works.

Stepping down from the soapbox now.

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