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It's Okay to Be Single

"Learn to Love yourself first..."

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It's Okay to Be Single

We've all heard the old cliche when we are feeling down about finding love: you'll find someone eventually. But honestly, being single has its perks.

You can't force love, so stop moping around and enjoy all of this glorious time you have to yourself, because it won't last forever. So instead of being depressed about being single, why don't you look at the bright side of it and enjoy "Riding Solo" as Jason Derulo says.

I feel like so many people, myself included, think that if you don't have a significant other then you are labeled "alone". But you're not, truly. You have your friends and family. I am so lucky to have my family. They are my light - my sanity. Your family and friends are always there to share your happiness and even your sorrow with. These people in your life can be your biggest support system and you can always depend on them without feeling guilty.

Having your "me" time is healthy. I'm not saying you don't get your "me" time when you are in a relationship, but more than likely during the time you have alone with yourself, you're thinking about your significant other...which leads me to my next point.

Being single is a call to focus on yourself. When you are in a relationship, it seems that you tend to put your goals on hold because you're so comfortable where you are and you don't want anything to change. When you're single, it encourages you to focus on yourself and take a deeper look into who you want to be...which can sometimes help lead you to the person you need to be with (your "soulmate", as they call it).

I'm not bashing love, like, at all. Everyone wants someone else to love, everyone. Even my 4 year old cat wants love. But as I said before, you can't force it. Real, unshakable, relentless, passionate, stupidly mushy, bonafide love isn't common. You can't buy that kind of love on Amazon or find it on Tinder (unless you're one of those crazy lucky people that somehow run into no sex-driven creeps). Real love hits you when you least expect, at the most inconvenient time, it and that's the best kind of love to find.

One of the most important things is loving yourself first, before you fall in love with the idea of someone else falling in love with you.

"Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others." - Unknown


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