Friendships and relationships always come and go; some stay for a very long time. But sometimes these friendships we fight so hard to maintain, aren't healthy ones. Sure, we've had friends or significant others we've been friends with or in a relationship with for a long time and we don't want to just abandon them, but sometimes in order to be healthy we need to. No one likes when things end, especially with someone that has been so close to you for a long time. It's hard when you read their texts but fight the urge to respond because you know as soon as you do you won't be able to stop the conversation; won't be able to stop wondering how they're doing and what they're thinking about. It's even worse when they know you'll answer because you cared about them too much not to and they take advantage of that. When that happens, you're heaved into the vicious cycle once again of trying to break free from the suffocating hold they have bestowed upon you.
I am here to tell you it's okay to let go of people. I am not going to lie to you and say it's easy because I too have been caught in the cycle of swearing I'll never answer someone again because of how badly they treated me but as soon as I see their name pop up on my phone my heart beats out of my chest and I have to at least read what they said. It takes a lot of willpower to ignore someone that has made such an impact in your life, even if its negative. But it's okay to let them go. It's okay to not answer them and just continue living your life. It's okay that you're building up the courage and strength to go on with your life and not have them in it.
Some people take advantage of your friendship because they know that you're too nice to say no. I am one of those people who would drop everything to help someone, even if they would never do the same for me. I have come to realize that I am more than that, and you are too. You don't have to continuously put in the effort for someone who won't give you the equal effort back. You have other people in your life that would gladly put in the same effort that you give to them, so don't worry about people that don't worry about you. You deserve the world and people who don't want to give it to you do not deserve you.
It's okay to be free of the negativity. It's okay to forget about the people who didn't treat you the way you should be treated because you deserve to be treated like YOU want to be treated. It is okay to let people go.
