It's Okay To Emotionally Cut Toxic People Out Of Your Life Without An Explanation | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Health and Wellness

It's Okay To Emotionally Cut Toxic People Out Of Your Life Without An Explanation

You don't owe anyone an apology that hasn't given you one themself

164
It's Okay To Emotionally Cut Toxic People Out Of Your Life Without An Explanation

At a certain point, when the person in question has repeated the same empty apology, done the same manipulative act, hurt you in the same way over and over again, that you just need to get them out of your life.

Sometimes, it isn't worth it to bring it to their attention. Confronting them about it will only create bigger drama and you'll be back at square one.

Whether they are a friend, a significant other, or even a family member, cutting them out of your life-- emotionally or physically-- is the only thing left to do.

You can cut them out emotionally. Decide with yourself that they're not going to be your friend anymore, but still act cordial to them in a social setting. You may still have class with them or have to see them often.

You can cut them out completely. Pretend like they don't exist, don't think about them at all, and train your brain to repress memories of them. Therapists would say that this is not a healthy coping mechanism, but when someone has hurt you so badly, what is there left to do?

Toxic people most often will not learn from their mistakes. You can try and tell them what they did wrong all you want, but they're just going to tell you what you want to hear, be "better" for a while, and go right back to their old ways. You're then stuck in a cycle of manipulation. The point won't get across to them until it's too late, when you've distanced yourself completely and moved on from them and they realize how much they liked having you in their life, but you didn't like having them in your's.

You have to do what's best for yourself and your own well-being. You can't put your own mental health down for the sake of someone else's, not when that person really doesn't care about you or your happiness. So, don't feel bad when you wake up and realize that you suddenly don't think about that person at all. Don't feel guilty when you can all of a sudden breathe easier in a situation you once felt like you were drowning in.

You did what was best for you, and that's all that matters.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Entertainment

11 Ways To Survive Finals As Told By Leslie Knope

Because you know you're going to be stressed out, and Leslie knows exactly how to survive.

40
Everything hurts and I'm dying

So finals are on their way. That's right everybody, finals are about to start.

But hey, don't panic. Start getting your affairs in order and prepare for a week of hell. Here's a few things Leslie Knope wants you to do to make your finals week just a little bit less stressful:

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

40 Perfect Gifts for 'I Have No Idea What I Want For Christmas' 🎁✨

It's a time of love, family, memory-making, and gift-giving. But also a time of stressing over the perfect gift.

117862
Christmas gifts
StableDiffusion

It's officially December. There is less than a month of 2023, and I still feel like yesterday was summer. Now comes the merriest time of the year, the Christmas season.

Everyone has been waiting for this time of year since mid-October (which is way too early, in my opinion) or before. It's a time of love, family, memory-making, and gift-giving. A lot of times when I ask friends and family what they want, I get a lot of "I don't know" or "I don't care."

Keep Reading...Show less
Kent State University
Great Value Colleges

If you go to or went to Kent State, then more than likely you have done or will do some of these things.

1. You’ve slipped and fallen on the ice at least once.

The winters at Kent are brutal, and while the heated sidewalks and some great snow boots are always a help, there’s no chance you won’t bust it on the ice at least once in your four plus years at school.

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

5 Reasons Why Finals Week Is The Worst For People Who Love Christmas

Christmas is on the brain during the month of December, not finals! How do you expect me to study?

140
santa claus with red background
Photo by krakenimages on Unsplash

Christmas is literally so close. We can almost taste it. But there is just one thing standing between you and the big day: FINALS. It's not the studying, lack of sleep, last minute cram sessions or crappy food intake that is the worst... but the fact that you cannot focus because, well, CHRISTMAS. How do professors expect you to focus when Christmas is soooo soon. For all my fellow Christmas lovers out there, I feel your pain.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Library Struggles Every College Student Will Understand

Are you really a college student if you don't stay up all night studying in your pajamas?

713
sleeping in the library
Daily Fun Lists

One of the most dreaded places on campus is the library. Nothing awesome ever happens here. Usually, the only reason you're here is because you've procrastinated so long that the library is the only place you'll actually get stuff done. It gives you this feeling of sadness and impending doom. You have no idea how this is going to go or how long you'll be here, but you do know it is about to be the most excruciating experiences yet. But it has to get done, so you drag yourself to the lovely library.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments