With it being Valentine’s season, all we see around us is love, love, and more love. Walking to and from class today, I saw so many happy girls holding stuffed animals and carrying flowers. It also seems to be the season for many people my age to be getting engaged.

Every time I get on any social media, I see another couple who has popped the question. Part of me wants to be jealous because I am personally a huge fan of love and everything lovey-dovey. Then, I laugh and realize that I don’t want to be married now. I have a lot I want to accomplish and that’s okay.

So ladies, take a chill pill. Let me break this down for you. The average lifespan is like 78 years in America. 78 years is a lot of years. If you have not found the one by 19, 20, 23, or even later, it does not mean that he is not out there. You can’t rush God’s timing and there is a reason why you haven’t found your husband yet. I have no idea who my husband is and I am about to turn 21. That is totally okay.

Anyone who knows me knows that I am a huge Disney fan and came out of the womb obsessed with Disney princesses. Every Disney princess of my time all shared the same concept, finding true love. So ever since I was small, I have loved the concept of love. Though I have grown up, I still appreciate the concept of love, just in a different way. With this growing I have done, I have also learned timing is a very important thing. The concept of love loses its meaning if one does not enjoy life on the way to the destination.

Think about it this way. You are wasting a lot of time if you are so worried about finding the one, that you are not appreciating the time you have until then. Don’t get me wrong, when you find him, it is going to be great. You are going to know that’s who you’re supposed to be with, and that growing up that you have been doing will contribute to the great relationship you two will have.

Maybe now is not the time for you to be engaged or married, so you can get to that point. I don’t know about you, but I want to be the best version of myself when I’m ready to get married. Until I reach that point, I’m in no rush.

So, during this season that love is in the air, don’t fret. Instead of stressing and worrying about your future, enjoy the growing you’re doing to get there. Accomplish something great, achieve what you want to. Chase your dreams and your person will meet you on your path.

If you listen to anything I’m saying, listen to this: The best things come into your life when you’re not even looking for them. This is most true in relationships. Stop forcing things and let things happen naturally in the right time. It is aye-okay if you don’t know who the one is yet.