Unfortunately, we have a rough image of love and what kind we get. We get really critical of ourselves when someone else shows interest in us, and let things happen too fast or don't put forward the right kind of energy.
We don't seem to let ourselves believe that someone actually likes us for us. We overthink and tell ourselves that it's too good to be true, but is it really? Or are we just afraid? Here are some tips that I've learned to help me when I start questioning affection towards me.
1. Just let it happen.
Whatever happens is meant to be. Things will work out however they do for some unknown reason. If you think too much and start to ask why someone likes you when it seems like no one else does, you're probably going to ruin it without knowing, too late.
2. Don't lose sleep.
I know that you're going to over think. I do, my friends do it, the person you like is doing it. Don't lose sleep over it. Understand that you'll figure out anyone's intentions sooner or later and if you follow your gut, fate will have it's way.
3. Ask.
I don't understand why people are so afraid to ask someone else what they want. If you are taking my time and attention I have no problem asking intentions and if you still like me. I am very much involved and I deserve to know. If more people would be brave and honest we wouldn't wait for the worse to happen. your freckles that appear after the sun, how perfect your brace-free teeth are, the way your eyes twinkle. Remind yourself that the reasons you love yourself are probably the reasons you have someone else paying attention to you.
4. Look in the mirror.
Look at yourself long and hard. Notice all the cute, unique things abut you. How you have one dimple when you smile,
5. Talk to your parents.
They have all been where we are at one point or another. It may not be the most comfortable thing you'll do but it will help you in the end. Your parents are also people you can trust to be honest with you, especially when it comes to someone that is potentially a significant other, trust me.
6. Don't compare your life to the movies.
My problem a lot of the time, when talking to someone, I get all these stupid scenarios in my head from movies. I have really high expectations for guys that weren't given a script and picked for their strong jawline.
7. Be patient.
We are all rushing into these haphazard feelings and relationships before we even know what we really want. Or before we even know the person enough to actually date them. We all want love and forget what it's supposed to be about and why. We don't think about the power you can have over the right person and them over you. It's supposed to be a partnership and we are too busy wanting what Noah and Allie had.
When we think something is too good to be true, we need to step back and look at ourselves and if we are pushing too fast. How much we know and need to know. What is the connection and why am I really interested in?
