I laugh sometimes when I constantly hear girls talk poorly of guys. Or when they compare every guy with “oh they’re all just the same.” Maybe you have a specific type, my dear. Maybe you’re attracted to the bad boys that hurt you because you like the thrill of a chase, the rush of a broken heart and the attention it gives you, or the complaining about the guy you can then do. But let me tell you, they are not all the same, and in fact, sometimes, we as girls are even worse than them. There are multitudes of girls out there who play with boys’ emotions. Tell them they’re special and then just move on two days later. Sleep with them and say that’s all they wanted. Have a summer fling they know will go nowhere but fail to tell the guy that and he puts his heart into it.

I guess truthfully ladies, we are all the same. Guys and girls alike, it just depends on how we choose to love and what morals we wish to follow. Society has taught us all too well that guys are the jerks. Guys are the heartbreakers. Guys are supposed to pay for everything, are supposed to take us on dates, hold the doors open, basically be a gentleman, waiting on us hand and foot. But this is 2016. We are supposed to be in a world of equality. Ladies, it’s not just up to guys anymore. They’re not the only bad ones.

As I mentioned, we all can be pretty terrible to each other. Sometimes guys need their own time to think about things like their feelings or what they see in their futures just like girls do because believe it or not, they’re humans too with feelings and hopes and dreams and wishes and wants and yes, even needs. Guys are put to shame in their own way as they’re all looked at as the “same” when that’s not the case at all. I’m so tired of watching guys be put down or shoved away because one girl chose to label them as “just like all the rest” which scares really amazing girls away from what could be an amazing guy. I think the reason I hate the song “It’s Different for Girls” by Dierks Bentley is because it makes guys look like pigs and girls look weak. Yes, it is true that girls deal with heartbreak differently, but just because a guy is out drinking or hooking up, doesn’t mean he isn’t mending his broken heart. Some girls are even like that and will do that and some guys will cry at home.

To tell you the truth, I’d be more concerned if a guy or girl wasn’t acting out in those ways after a break up because that shows they’re satisfied being over with you. We as teenagers and adults need to start looking at things as a whole. We are all very similar, yet also very different. Not one of us is better than the other, not one of us should be expected to do, say or act a certain way. Ladies, it’s not just guys. It is us too. And we need to start looking at ourselves once in a while and take responsibility for how we treat guys too.