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It's Not Ariana Grande's — Or Any Girl's — Responsibilty To Fix A Broken Boyfriend

You can only do so much, do not sacrifice your well-being for a boy.

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It's Not Ariana Grande's — Or Any Girl's — Responsibilty To Fix A Broken Boyfriend
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You would have to live under a rock if you haven't heard about the falling out of Pete Davidson and Ariana Grande recently. Pete has been suffering mentally because of the relentless Internet trolls mocking him and tweeting malicious things. That being said, Ariana was right there willing to help him at any cost when she, and the rest of Internet, saw the suicidal message he said on Twitter. I think that Ariana Grande was doing what any kind-hearted and loving person would do for someone in need, and Pete just shut her down as if she never mattered to him. Just wow. Pete needs to figure himself out and it's not Ariana's job to figure it out for him.

I think there is common blame placed on girls for being broken, and their boyfriends are left to fix all of those problems and make everything sunshine and rainbows. Wrong. Boyfriends can be just as broken as any girlfriend can, and it's not the girlfriend's job to fix her man, just as it's not a boyfriends job to fix his girl. People need to learn self-love before they can really love anyone else. Only when you fall in love with who you see in the mirror can you find the person who is meant to be with you.

Obviously, Pete and Ariana have been through a lot, but that doesn't mean it's her job to make all of his demons go away. He is an adult and needs to seek professional help to sort out what's been going on. Our significant others lean on us for help through times of trial and tribulation, but there comes a point when you can only do so much for them before they start to drag you into a negative place. You have to be strong enough to say no or even walk away, not because you can't handle what they are going through, but because you know you have to put yourself first.

You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make it drink. Ladies, if your boyfriend is broken beyond repair, do not take it upon yourself to be the one to fix him. You can only do so much and his family can only do so much. It is up to him to change himself for the better, you cannot run to his aid every five seconds because he can't handle being a big boy and doing things on his own.

Your well-being is so important and it's not worth throwing it away because of a boyfriend's toxic behavior and attitude. You come first. Your boyfriend has the tools to fix himself and you should not need to do all of the work for him.

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