"You just don't get it!" echoes through the walls or the line via text message is inked into your memory. If you've ever been in a relationship or a fling, you know this line all too well.

Sometimes, the person that you want the most is the person most far removed. These type of fights can build up until you no longer have that person. You may be in these beginning stages or you might just be healing from a rather toxic relationship just like this one. Wherever you are, just remember:

It's not your fault nor is it theirs.

I've encountered people in my life where we clicked about interests, movies, music, and jokes. However, there are moments where, no matter how many times I shake their shoulders, they just don't understand what I need or ask for. It's so frustrating, and I'm sure you've felt the same way.

It spiraled me to the point where I became a toxic person in the relationship as I desperately tried filling their needs and ignoring my own.

But no matter how many times I compromised them over me, my needs gnawed at my insides and scratched at my bones, begging for satisfaction. Then at the end of that break-up, your big heart will probably take the blame because you were toxic and that you did bad things. Yes, it is partially your fault, but you also have to remember:

Different people bring out different versions of ourselves and it takes some soul searching to understand who we are in relationships.

For instance, if you're someone who is affectionate and your partner is not, and I'm saying not even in private are they sweet to you, you may suppress that affectionate side and try to ignore it, but something will feel wrong. These negative sentiments might manifest into insecurities, control, or other toxic behaviors. This is a classic example of attachment theory.

Another example is if your partner wants to spend quiet time with you, but no matter how often you bask in one another's presence, something may feel off. However, when they give you a card that shows their appreciation for you, you get butterflies like it's day one. Test out what your love language is to know what makes you and them feel loved.

Evidently, there are so many tools to be aware and cognizant of who you are. Although relationships are heaps of fun to be in, it takes a lot of understanding of yourself and communicating what you need to make it work.

The "right person" will be able to understand or, at the very least, be willing to meet you halfway.