If you're a country fan, you've no doubt heard beloved Billy Currington's new song "It Don't Hurt Like It Used To" (Listen here or on Spotify). Even if you aren't a country fan, I encourage you to listen to this great song because it's something everyone can relate to: heartbreak. To anyone who has recently gone through a breakup, this song will both help you and probably make you shed a few tears.
Heartbreak hurts like hell, and we never know how we're going to get through it. We never know when it will end or when we find the next greatest love of our life. We don't know how long we won't be able to listen to "our" song without falling apart or how long we will go the long way home to avoid passing "our" spots. We don't know who is going to move on first and deliver a fresh blow of heartbreak, and we don't know how long we're going to be in Brokenheartsville. We don't know how long it's going to take until we don't think of "us" constantly or how long it will take until we don't see you everywhere we go.
Currington writes it best:
"Hey, hey, what can I say?
I can just lie and say it's all okay
Oh-ho, what can I do?
Been goin' through Hell gettin' over you
But it don't hurt, it don't hurt like it used to
No it don't hurt, it don't hurt like it used to."
We all know we've tried to hide our pain from family, friends, and the one who hurt us with the hopes that if we can convince them that we're OK, we can convince ourselves. Whoever said "It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" (Alfred Lord Tennyson, I discovered) clearly had never really loved and lost, because it never feels like it was only your heart that was broken, but your whole being. Now we have a new response and it doesn't sound like we're lying to ourselves and others. There are days that we have to pretend and there are days that we don't. But when it doesn't hurt like it used to, that's when you know it's over.
In a way, this is for my last love because they need to know something I will never have the heart to personally tell them:
I thought that I would love you until my last day and that I would never get over you. I still believe this, because you will always have a piece of me and my heart. I still think of you often, but I won't lie and say I'm OK. I can honestly say that it don't hurt like it used to.
XO,
Your last love.
