You hear the stories all the time. You meet someone and you two fall in love, but for some reason, you can't make it work. Perhaps one or the other is not mature enough for a relationship, or perhaps they had just gotten out of one, or maybe there is travel involved.
Whatever the reason may be, the two lovers cannot commit to each other at the time. This is when a failed relationship is blamed on bad timing.
Though, there's a debate on if the timing is truly relevant to the success of a relationship. Is it possible that timing can hinder something so great, or is it an excuse because, rather than it being the wrong time, it is really the wrong person?
I wonder, if two people are meant to be together, will anything really stop them? If you're too immature, you'll mature together. If you're scared of getting hurt, you'll help overcome the fear together. If you live 1,000 miles away, you'll make long-distance work together.
Surely, every person has their limits as to what they can or can't, or will or won't, do. For example, some people are indefinitely opposed to the idea of a long-distance relationship. They'll say they know themselves, and they know they cannot make it work.
But, if it was the right person, wouldn't you try? Wouldn't you have faith?
I believe we will try to blame every external force we can to avoid blaming ourselves. We use the concept of bad timing to make up for the idea that, maybe, the person we've become so infatuated with is actually not the person that is meant to be in our lives.
If you're a believer in bad timing and the universe being the force that dictates your relationship, I'd assume you'd believe that the universe will put the right person in our life. So, if that right person showed up at a bad time, is it really the right person, or is the universe just flushing out the possibilities for you?
This discussion also goes back to fate versus free will. Do we choose the love of our life, or will the love of our life come to us due to fate? Is it the universe working its magic, or is it the individuals?
Some would say this even comes down to a faith versus logic/practicality debate. There's so much to consider when looking at how our lives are unfolding. It all comes down to every person's own beliefs.
Are you putting your faith in the idea that timing controls who belongs in your life, or do you believe that the people in your life come and go due to your own personal actions?
As I stated previously, I believe timing doesn't stop true love. If it's the right person, there's no such thing as bad timing. If it's the right person, it will work.
