There is an obsessed focus on women's eating habits that go beyond concern. I realized this when I was taking a break in-between classes as I was eating a snack and drinking a soda that I bought from the vending machines. A man glanced over to me and hummed disapprovingly,"That ain't enough to spoil dinner girl," he said.

I was taken aback and a little angry over the fact that a total stranger thought that he had the social right to comment on a young woman's snack. He felt the need to call me out. My sister and many other women have had similar experiences.

Many times, the obsessive focus on another woman's weight can be severe and judgmental. It seems as though the discussion over a woman's weight leads people to some kind of entitlement over their bodies. People think they have a right to say what women should be doing to make others feel better about themselves or for the benefit of society as a whole. This is most noticeable in Hollywood. There is a large focus on what female celebrity is anorexic or too fat, largely bypassing male celebrities.

I understand the concern that people have over size. If you care about someone you want them to be healthy. What people are doing is using concern as an excuse to judge, and it is unsettling. There really is not a settled standard on how large or small a woman should be. Negativity over appearance is a poor substitute for caring about being healthful.