Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter. These are all social media apps that we hear or use on a day-to-day basis on our phones. It was created as a form of communication and interactions with our friends, family, and even strangers that share similar interests.
However, it has morphed into something much bigger than that alone.
I have used my social media apps since I was in 6th grade and being a sophomore in college, I have seen how it has progressed over the years.
It has turned into a competition, no matter what age you are.
Facebook is a prime example where this is played out.
Posts have become where you traveled, what clothing you have, how many friends you have, and a very popular concept, how many likes you have on your post. Whose views speaks louder than the other. Who becomes an ambassador for what company. Who wins the fight on Facebook.
The list goes on and on. But do you ever sit back in wonder, "Why did it morph into this way?" Also, the majority of the time, this is the case for one sole purpose.
Likes.
I, myself, have been a victim of caring about something so superficial and materialistic.
Some things I would not post just because I was scared I wouldn't get likes. Other times I would post at a certain time just to get the most likes. Also, I would make sure to post pictures with friends out somewhere, just to feel like I have something to show.
But what a toxic way to be?
Why do we need constant validation from friends, even strangers, to just feel that importance?
Why must we be in constant competition?
At the end, who really wins?
No one.
We are all left in one time or another feeling not included or unloved. Some on a higher level than others. But, no one wants to feel that way. So why do we do it to others, voluntarily or involuntarily?
There have been so many times where I felt so left out viewing what my friends were doing without me and left me constantly wondering, "Why couldn't I join?" Unfortunately, I don't feel like I speak alone saying this. May peers of mine say they often take breaks from "Instagram" and "Snapchat" just because it lowers their mood, makes them feel not as great about themselves, and feel like they should be doing more in their life, something more "post-worthy."
Also, don't get me wrong. I love using social media and I'm a huge advocate about keeping in touch with one another online. However, with that said, we need to stop competing with each other. Like who can go on a better vacation than the other, who has better jewelry/outfits, who is more of a socialite/goes to more parties. We all have these ultimatums in the back of our mind when we begin to post.
Why have we done this to each other? It shouldn't be a competition, but rather a supportive community.
The whole purpose of social media was to feel connected to one another; so why do we feel even more disconnected?
How can we stop? Maybe, comment more on people's posts things you like about them. Like their outfit, smile, happiness, etc. Let's create a better environment for everyone by just posting for the art and memories made, rather than feeling like you have a one up on someone. Post because you want to, not because you feel obligated to. And spread love and positivity, let's leave the negativity and arguments out of the equation.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
