Almost everyone has dreamt of having an ideal relationship. You know the one where you start as friends, and end up as star-crossed lovers?
You know -- the one where you find your soulmate, get married, have kids, the whole happily ever after ordeal. If you actually have lived your fairytale, then you think you your relationship is perfect in every aspect, and there can’t possibly be anything else to improve on because you have it all.
However, have you ever thought that you could be closer to your partner, and wasn’t sure exactly how to achieve that closeness? Well, that simply means the very essence of who you are finally wants to intertwine with your significant other -- in other words, your spirit.
Coming from a Christian/Baptist background, the Bible only truly emphasizes and honors marriage, and the sacredness of the bond between God, Man and his wife. So, there aren’t really certain scriptures you can turn to that specifically help the dating couple.
However, this shouldn’t stop your boyfriend from learning how to become the righteous man God ordained him to be, nor does it stop your girlfriend from discovering how a righteous woman should carry herself.
Nonetheless, in y’all's journey towards divine guidance, you will discover that not only is your love for God overflowing, but it’s pooling into the nest y’all are slowly yet surely building together.
In the process, the love you have for each other, and others, will also overflow.
So, if you’re reading this article, then you’ve already taken the first step into divine intervention in your relationship. It’s all about the initiation. If you and your significant other haven’t already done so, make a list of goals you are trying to receive from this spiritual oneness with God and each other.
Whether you guys want to discover God together, you want more guidance in leading the life God wants you to live, how to love, how to have faith, etc., these goals will set the foundation of what you are trying to achieve.
I assure you that aimlessly shooting through this journey and “winging” it will not only leave you lost, but it will lead to inconsistency, and the only way to strengthen your relationship and understanding of God is to read the Bible and pray daily.
Just as you would practice for a sport, or mindlessly get on twitter, this is how impulsive praying and studying the Word should be.
The second step I would advise is to not rush or pressure this journey onto your significant other.
Nobody gains anything but nervousness and reluctance when they are being pushed into doing something they aren’t ready for, or are nervous to do. Also, considering that spirituality is a fairly delicate topic, this isn’t something you want to rush.
Rather, you want a natural yearn to seek more than just fleshly desires and emotional contentedness.
Thirdly, I would suggest investing in a plan on how to approach the Bible.
For a God-fearing individual who’s hardly picked up the bible, the first thing they may want to do is attempt to read the bible from cover to cover. That is a very tedious task that takes more than just patience, and simply starting at the beginning isn’t necessarily going to help you gain spiritual awareness. But again, it also depends on what you and your partner’s goals are.
To begin the spiritual conquest, I would go on Pinterest and look for devotionals for dating couples. I found there were many articles on couples trying to seek divine guidance.
Some couples did weekly bible study sessions if they were sort of long-distance, and some couples prayed every day together by reading their daily scriptures. Just by practicing thanking God for their communion, and for continuing to bless their endeavors, they managed to stay devoted.
The cons of Pinterest, however, is that most of the advice and information is for married couples. I emphasize married and dating couples so heavily because married couples are already aware they have made a covenant with God in holy matrimony, and they realize the seriousness of that notion.
Dating couples, depending on how serious they are, are trying to establish a foundation which gradually builds to that point.
Simply reading what married couples do isn’t going to do anything but add more pressure on your loved one. I recommend getting the book "Devotions For Dating Young Couples"by Ben Young and Samuel Adams.
The Google Play version is no more than ten dollars, and the hard copy version is also fairly cheap. Its contents are so useful and relatable, I’ve been applying them to my own relationship.
Although it’s only been a couple of weeks, I am so much more spiritually mindful than I was a month ago.
There are many other ways you can approach this journey, and I will admit that mine is not exactly sound proof. The results I’m getting from simply reading my bible more and learning how to love God with my entire being has already began to trickle into my relationship, and my boyfriend and I are growing closer because of it.
You’ve already taken the imitative to read this article; just take a step further into the way of the everlasting, and reach a new level of spiritual intimacy with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
