We search and search and search and continue searching for someone to meet those expectations we now have.
Those of a person who is willing to dangle from a moving Ferris wheel just to get your attention, or someone who builds your dream house to the very last detail and sends you letters every day for a year.
Seems unrealistic right? Well, that’s because it kind of is.
You’re lucky enough to find someone that is willing to put up with your silly and/or annoying quirks.
It is unfortunate that we do not send letters anymore – we send texts.
We don’t ask for phone numbers anymore – we ask for snap chat usernames/codes.
We don’t even ask someone on a formal date – we ask to “hang out.”
Some people are okay with that, but us readers and movie enthusiasts – ehh, not so much.
But what other option do we have? We clearly don’t want to die alone – so we settle.
We settle for the bland texts, the occasional snap chat, and the “hangouts.”
Some people are completely content with that and wouldn’t change a thing, but what about those who aren’t?
What about those who would prefer the handwritten letters, and the actual formal and might I add, awkward first dates? How do we handle this new generation of dating? How do we navigate these murky, often unwanted waters that hit us like a tidal wave?
Well, we speak up and take some initiative ourselves.
Instead of giving that person your snap chat, give him your number instead – if he’s really digging you, he’ll even prefer that.
Rather than him asking to “hang out,” which he inevitably will ask at some point – offer up an alternative to that: “Why don’t we go catch a movie instead?” or “How about we go get some actual dinner” and not just eat the microwavable pizza that has been sitting in your freezer for the last month and a half.
The handwritten letter portion might be a stretch but hey, a girl can dream. But, if anything, write them a letter, see where that gets you. You’d be surprised how responsive people tend to be when it is not them that have to take the initiative.
However, fret not my dears. If he doesn’t really want your company, he’ll say no to the movie and/or dinner but that’s okay. It just shows you that he’s not the person for you. And that’s completely okay.
You have your whole life to better those standards and even make them higher if you need to. The right person will come along at some point in your life and it’ll be wonderful because he won’t ask your for your snap chat first, rather he’ll ask for your number.
Again, the letters are a stretch but he’ll buy you flowers unexpectedly and completely make you swoon. AND to but the icing on the cake, you will have that awkward first date that every female has been yearning for since we watched every Romanic movie known to man.
Moral of the story: Don’t rethink your standards, but rather wait for the person that makes you 1. Want to change them a tad and/or 2. Makes you throw them completely out the window.
