Self-discovery really is one of the most important forms of self-love. To truly find yourself and fit where you think you belong and to feel that comfortable homeliness and understanding to come to terms with "this is me." That sort of feeling some people find early in life, some don't find it until they close their eyes for the last time.

Personally? I'm trying to find myself for probably the eighth time. My circumstances keep changing and it honestly horrifies me.

-At 16 I wanted to be a body piercer. I loved the idea of helping others change and the medial aspect of the human body and the effects of modification on it.

-At 17 I was a little more practical, with the idea of being a teacher at the college or high school level. My mom and grandmother were teaching and teaching assistants respectively; so continuing a family tradition was something I was in love with.

-At 18 I decided that college wasn't for me at the time. I was working full time and school was on the back burner. I missed classes and I regret it, I put my growth on hold.

-At 19 I work two jobs and support myself. It's not an exciting life, but I am humbled by it. Not many people can see they're striving towards bettering themselves while being on their own.

Typically self-discovery is stigmatized on the taboo level. Sleep with too many people? Slut. Sleep with no one? Prude. Don't do anything with your life? Bum. Do too much? Stop trying so hard.

That's not how finding yourself should be. Try new things, shave your head. Start a salsa company, move out of your home town. If your possibilities are endless why are you limiting who you are as a person? Answer that question for yourself, and achieve your "zen." If your zen form keeps changing, embrace it.