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If You Have To Force It, Leave It

"You shouldn't have to force someone to stay with you because someone who truly loves and cares for you will want to stay."

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Letting people go from your life is an extremely hard decision to make, especially if it's someone that you love. We try so hard to hold on to things that are already broken because you're supposed to try and fix things that are broken, right? But what if the thing that is broken is beyond our repair? What if it's better to cut it loose and find something so much better? Most people believe that everyone we lose in our life is a loss, but truly and honestly they're not.

We tend to lose people because they're someone who isn't meant for us. Someone who popped up into our already crazy lives and made things better, but only for a few minutes. It hurts when they leave and it's not something that's easy to repair, but we have to repair ourselves and move on. Instead of crying our pain away, we should celebrate people leaving from our lives because they no longer serve as support for us. They no longer hold value to our lives because keeping them would have caused even more damage.

When you stop trying to keep or bring back a person from your past, it doesn't mean that you're giving up. It simply means that you've finally realized that you deserve so much more. You shouldn't have to force someone to stay with you because someone who truly loves and cares for you will want to stay. They'll want to support you, love you, cherish you, and spend time with you. If someone gives meaning to our lives and makes a mark on our memories, then they might be worthy of our time. And if not, then so be it.

We need to stop trying to force things that aren't meant to last just because we're afraid of being without someone and we need to stop being so overly dependent on someone just because we can't remember our life without them. If someone doesn't treat you how you think you deserve to be treated, don't accept their behavior. We need to stop settling for someone we can just live with and start settling for someone that you can't go a day without thinking about. The way we deal with hurt and heartbreak isn't what defines us, it's the way we deal with that hurt and heartache that does. Stop forcing, Start leaving.

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