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It Hurts Me That I'm Only Good Enough To Be A Friend But Not A Boyfriend

Always the friend, never the lover.

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Friends...where would be without friends? Who would we be without friends? Friends are like our brothers or sisters. You can tell them anything you desire or crave? You can tell them your deepest, most darkest secrets, that even your parents do not know about. Friends will always be there for you when you are in distraught, need assistance to change a tire or help you fight someone that you do not like.

Nowadays, kids call it, "my ride or dies." But despite all of these things, they will always see you as a friend. They do not recognize the laughs that you all share, the understanding of how you feel about a certain situation, nor the influence they have on you as a person. They are willing to bypass and suppress all of those emotions and heartfelt interactions, with a simple statement.

"I wouldn't date you Michael. You're too good of a friend."

Now where does me being too good of a friend, fizzle over to me not being a good boyfriend? I mean do these women not understand that I AM THE BEST THING SINCE SLICED BREAD!!!! But I digress!!!

Do I not have the physical prowess of what you look for in a man? Is it because you do not think I can please you sexually, because of your perceived notions about me being soft? Is it because we do not have intimate chemistry, when I know your very ins and outs??? Or is it because you do not think I can provide you security and stability when times get rough for you?

It hurts me that I'm good enough to be a friend, but not a boyfriend.

It is like I am not worthy to get the holy grail, (i.e. cuddling, sex and more sex.) Now given, you do have a boyfriend. But who is to say that will last. Who is to say that things will not workout.

And if you do not give me a chance, you will be just like every other naive girl who did not think, I was good enough to be their boyfriend or F*** Buddy, or anything like that.

But Michael Covington does not do friendzoning

And I am here to tell you that if you did not have a boyfriend, and I wanted you, and you rejected me, I would not desire to be your friend any longer. For me, there would be no point. I treat my relationships with women, like I treat my interviews: there is no point in keeping contact with you, if you did not give me the job.

Others may call this harsh, selfish and stubborn, but I call it protecting my heart. Protecting my heart from the potential physical image, of seeing you kiss, hug and smile at another guy....that is not better than me. You do not know how much that tears me up inside.

To see someone I should be with, deserve to be with, but does not have the flair that she wants to be with.

But you may be biting the dust just like every other girl

When he breaks your heart, I will not be there to pick up the pieces. I will not be there to be the shoulder to cry on. I will not be the one to tell you that things are going to be ok and that he is an idiot. Because you were the idiot for dating him. I told you, but you did not listen.

But after all this, you will eventually get over the heartbreak and tribulation, and get back on your feet. You may start to hate guys and become much more of an independent woman. Then you will be going to a local bar, just to grab some cocktails, with your girlfriends, just so you can chat and reminisce about that your trashy ex-boyfriend that never really gave a damn about you.

They will agree with you and you will nod, but you will never tell them about the guy that you should have been with. The guy that only wanted to see you happy, as long as you made him happy. The guy who wanted to give everything to you and all of him.

But you will not recognize that, and I will be the one still in distress and heartbreak about never being with you.

But will we still be friends??? I highly doubt it.

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