The hookup culture is alive and well on the college dating scene. We live in a time where Snapchat is the dominate mode of communication and dates have been replaced with a casual hangout. Now, I am no stranger to the ambiguity and confusion this can present, but I also don't mind it. I see post after post about how horrible modern dating is, but I can't say I think it's that bad.
For a girl like me, having a guy over to just watch Netflix or grab a coffee between classes is preferred to the whole ordeal of getting dressed up, picked up, and taken out to awkwardly stare at someone I don't really know to pretend I eat this mannerly. I like that there isn't pressure for me to be seriously monogamous.
The biggest issue I have with modern dating is the idea that the ladies are victims in this situation. We can complain all day about how terrible it is, but why not do something? If you want to go on a date, ask him. If you want something more, ask for it. Demand it. Don't pretend like you have no control over what happens in a relationship. If you say you want to go on a real date, and he refuses, then he's probably not worth your time anyway. If you don't feel respected, leave him. If you don't like the rules of modern dating, break them.
There is something enticing about being romanced, having someone care enough to get the flowers, to only have eyes for you. I am not denying that at all. I hate to rely on cliches, but if it's right, I think he will be willing to do all those things for you. I actually believe this cliche.
The trouble starts when one person is willing and the other just isn't in it. If someone says they aren't ready for a relationship, that doesn't reflect upon me. It's probably just the truth. I have said it plenty of times and I meant it every single time. It's not an excuse to treat anyone poorly. It's not me waiting for the next best thing, it's just me being honest. If two people are on the same page, and can be something without being everything, there's nothing wrong with that.
I know how confusing modern dating can be. I know how hurtful it can be. I have been there and I have been scorned , but I just can't deny that I like the ease of it all. I like that I don't have to commit to 'dating' just to get to know someone. I like the freedom.
