My Opinion On How Your Insecurities Aren’t Your Fault And Why I Don’t Like The Word “Should”

We all have insecurities. Even if people don’t admit they have insecurities, deep down in their soul they do. I have them, you have them, hell, my damn dog probably has some as far as I know. They aren’t fun to have, no one wants to feel lesser than everyone else because they enjoy a certain hobby that they are hesitant to share with others, or that they look a certain way, but it is an aspect of your life that shouldn’t be ignored. For example, I love video games. I’ve always loved video games, they are an aspect of my life that I enjoy, but for several years I was ashamed to admit that I loved them. The reason I felt ashamed was because I felt like I should of liked sports. I should have liked playing outside. I should have liked this or that.

I hate the word “should.” Who’s to say you should feel a certain way about something? No one, that’s who. They aren’t living your life, they aren’t dealing with your problems, they aren’t thinking your thoughts. If we all liked the same things, and only thought in the same mind set, then how could people be individuals? In my own mind, I feel like people who use the word “should” are either unaware of what it implies, or are just self-centered enough to believe that everything they believe is what everyone else SHOULD believe.

Now that I’ve gotten that out my system, I just wanted to explain how having insecurities isn’t the fault of the person experiencing them. I think very few insecurities actually have merit as to why they are insecurities. I think most of them stem from stigmas that are engraved in a flawed society. Here are a few examples. Being overweight, it is just looked down upon because you don’t fit the stereotypical model of beauty. Another one is having sexual fetishes. How can we talk about sexual fetishes, if we still live in an age where it’s still hella awkward to even tell kids about sex? These and many other insecurities go back to stigmas, and the word “should.” You “should” not be overweight, people will not want to date you. You “should” not have any sort of sexual preference in any way, only missionary is allowed because fuck you for being different.

In terms of myself, I’m still trying to cope with my insecurities, but if there is one thing you can take away from this article, I hope it is this. Your insecurities are not your fault, they are the fault of a society where it is not ok to be different, or be a certain way. I know that can be hard to come to grips with, after thinking for so long that there is something wrong with you, but in reality there isn’t jack shit wrong with you, and the people that say that there is something wrong with you for being a certain way, are either unaware of what they are implying, or are self-centered. So please, I hope someone reading this can learn to love themselves for being them, and realize that they aren’t a problem.