Anyone who’s in a long term relationship can think back to their very first date with their significant other. Who could ever forget the nervousness, the butterflies, the uncertainties, and of course, that awkward first kiss. Don’t you wish you could go back to that very moment, and tell yourself all of the amazing things to come? Don’t you wish you could stand where you stood, and answer that age old question for yourself, “Is this the one?” Well, if I could, I’d go back to that very moment after that first awkward kiss, and slip myself a letter explaining it all. If I could do that, I’d imagine it’d go something like this…

Dear Me,

Great job on that first date! You were only slightly awkward and you only talked about your cats once, so that’s a good start! I know that you were nervous, and I know that you’re scared. When you look past the awkwardness, you’ve never felt this way about someone before and you’re just afraid he’s going to hurt you (like they always do.) But, I need you to trust me when I say, this one’s different. Did you feel that spark when you kissed goodnight? That wasn’t just excitement. That was that feeling they talk about in books and movies. That was something special. Don’t be scared of it. Good things are to come, I promise.

I know what you’re thinking, “This seems too good to be true already.” I’m not going to lie to you, this isn’t going to be perfect and this relationship isn’t going to be easy. However, I’ll tell you with complete certainty that it will be worth it. You will have highs and lows. There will be huge fights and sadness. But, there will also be some of the happiest moments in your whole life. The happiness will outweigh the sadness by tons, though, and this will be some of the best times you’ve ever had. You’ll go on adventures together and see lots of amazing things. You’ll have your own inside jokes, routines and traditions. You’ll create a life together that will make you wonder why you ever questioned it in the first place. Don’t be scared, you will take care of each other and love each other. You will look back on this moment together and laugh about your awkward nervous habits and the way you made stupid small talk.

I know what you’re thinking now, “How do you know this is the one?” I know that you practically wanted to blurt it out at dinner, “Are you the one?” Well, I’m not sure how to explain it to you, so I’ll just say that, you’ll just know. I can’t remember an exact moment when I realized it. But, it’s the journey to that point that strengthens your relationship the most. Don’t rush things, don’t worry and stress, and just have fun. Someday, you’ll have to worry about a lot of things that are more important than what you’re going to wear on your second date. The two of you are destined for great things and you have nothing to worry about. I can assure you that the two of you have some amazing times in store for you. You will love, support, and encourage each other through everything, and you will become better people because of it.

So, stop worrying, smile, and go jump on your bed in happiness when he leaves. Because you just met the one. You’re about to embark on the biggest adventure of your life so far, and you’re going to want this moment to look back on.

Love,

Me