It used to feel impossible for me to just let go and know that God has control over my life. I used to want to plan out every little detail, stressing over when things things didn't go along with my plan. I questioned why I was losing my best friends, why I wasn't getting A's in the classes I studied days for, why God wasn't placing the right guy in my life, and why I always felt stressed out with things spiraling out of control. It has taken me 4 years to fully comprehend how to deal with situations that are out of my control. It is easy to look at someone's situation and say, "Oh relax. God's got it, stop stressing!" but when it comes to literally applying it your own life, it was one of the hardest thing to wrap my head around.
I hope this article helps you understand how I dealt with my situations. I hope you can take it into your own life. It has taught me patience and more importantly, trust within the Lord.
Why is God taking these people out of my life?
I used to sit and question why God took people out of my life. I thought these people were supposed to be by my side and be there for me. Whether it was my best friends, boys, etc., I had to learn one very important thing. God takes these people out of your life FOR A REASON. You can beg and pray for God to make them stay, but if they aren't meant to be in your life, God will make 100% sure they won't be. This doesn't mean they couldn't come back, there is always that chance, but you cannot wait around for it. God has taught me to be dependent on Him, not what my thoughts believe is best for me. At the end of the day, the Lord will place those people back in your life if the timing is right.
Ever heard someone say "I don't know what career I want to go into! I'm so stressed about my future."
Does this sound familiar? Everyone hits a point in their life where they feel frustrated with where their life is going. The truth is, you have to find what you love. If you're stressed about being unsure about your major or not sure what job you would enjoy, just take a breath and relax. I used to think I wanted to be a dermatologist and one day I came to the realization that I cannot to math or science to save my life. I work best in sales, marketing, advertising, communication, etc. So, find what you love, and God will present the right path for you and your future.
Also, stressing does nothing but make you break out and eat bad, trust me, been there & most certainly done that. I know it's the one thing your stressed about, but find something to channel your energy into a positive way & the right people/jobs/internships/careers will find you 100%. God won't let you down.
Trust His Timing...
Timing is everything. I used to stress about why all my friends were getting boyfriends, accepted into a million different colleges, what was wrong with me? I've learned that timing is completely out of my control. God places people in your life and out of your life, and it is all in His control. The right opportunities will present themselves naturally. Just STOP trying to get ahead and control every little aspect of your life. It is one of the hardest things to wrap your head around sometime. We constantly want to know what's going to happen next. Will I get an A on this exam? Will I ever talk to my ex-best friend again? Will I get accepted into this school? Will I be married by 30 with 2 kids? When am I going to land that great job? I get it, a million things go through my mind like this everyday. The best advice I can give you is to let go, and let God.
Why do I have to be single?
Instead of getting down on yourself & questioning "What's wrong with me?" take that energy and turn it positive. Maybe God doesn't want you to have a relationship with someone because you aren't done growing emotionally into the best version of yourself. Find things you love, you can meet people through that. If you like working out, go to the gym, make a friend. If you like being social, join a club on campus, involve yourself so you can meet people from different backgrounds.
God is going to place you with exactly who you are meant to be with. Stop being impatient, and learn to allow yourself to grow into a better individual, that way when you meet the right guy/girl your relationship will be wonderful. God made each and every one of us very, very, individually special. The guy that's wasting your time and messing around with 1 million other girls is not the man God wants you to be with. Simply just due to the fact that you 1000% deserve better, and He knows that.