Let's paint a scenario:
You're in your pre-teen years, say about 14, you've just realized the significance of what it means to feel affectionate for that boy in your gym class or that girl who sits are the back table with all of her friends at lunch, suddenly you're on a mission.
Your day to day operations as you begin to plunge into the beginner stages of growing up no longer entail getting home to watch your favorite show or putting your full focus into becoming the star student of your English class. Now, you're headstrong to take on the path of making sure that guy/girl notices you well enough to create a spark, incite conversation, shoot your lucky roll of the dice and land you as the IT pair that's going around.
You actually nail it with either little or no struggle and now you're on top of the world and suddenly you feel empowered because you now have your dream relationship at hand......or so you think.
We've all been there before
"Guys, I'm telling you she's so awesome, I swear this is going a long way"
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"I can't believe how sweet he is, he's my dream boy for sure"
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"That's my 'wifey' "
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"That's my 'hubby' "
We've all at least once in our walk of life have quickly jumped the gun within just about no more than two weeks of being with your first or third significant other. Yet, there's always that one split in the void of reality that slaps us back in the face and reassures us, super binding yourselves to each other won't get you far.
It takes quite the hard work, dedication of time and patience to assure that person who supposedly has your heart, is in it for life and trust me, it doesn't even begin with just taking them out to lunch at your local subway.
Here are 5 prominent signs that prove you actually have found The One.
- If you and your partner treat each other as equals of not only boyfriend/girlfriend but also as a best friend, you're in good hands.
- When you and your partner can easily for days begin to days end go hand in hand for conversations that reach no limit of an interesting topic, you're in good hands.
- Your partner and yourself must not only be able to comprehend one another's differences, struggles, and stepping stones but also must be able to understand on a balanced level that requires zero verbal abuse or heightened confrontation, to which as a result, good news, you'll be in good hands.
- There is never a dull moment between you and the one you hold close to your heart. Communication is key, but the quality is a deciding factor of just how effective that communication is. If you both equally enjoy laughing a lot, then telling a lot of jokes and exploring your comedic side with your partner can bring you two a long way when you're reaching for long-term compatibility with keeping your relationship fresh. Thus, yes.......good hands.
- To achieve the mountaintop of your goal with keeping that wondrous gal hooked onto your arm or capturing the attention of that sporty fella so that he feels inclined at none to second guess your bond: PATIENCE is an extreme virtue. You'll possibly fall into a mix where the other may come with a history of trust, or heartache or even abuse to where there are some voids to fill. Other times, your partner himself/herself may just come with their own separate case of personal matters which may create a bit of friction.
This is where you have a distinctive choice to make.
You can tuck and run. Refuse to tackle the balances of what it means to uphold a relationship and attempt to find a "perfect" setting.
OR.....
You can stay. Be a loyal, caring and supportive tag team partner to that one who at the moment owns your heart. Console and understand them through each feat of personal battle they come to, and see through it that they, along with you, prosper.
Thus these 5 hands of tips, you will now together find yourselves that you are set for the future and
But rest to sure. These 5 tips are but of just the prime base of what it means to go the distance with the one you desire to spend the rest of your days with. They are true through and through to get you both where you want to be. However, a long road of make shifting your way among including families and friends, the inclusion of education and employment coming between the two of you and the balances of how well you both shape yourselves individually in society, play an important role to surviving and outlasting such a dream planted from a seed one tale ago.
Do this correctly, and you just may never know the wonders of the universe you will unlock.