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How To Love When Its Not Easy

What does the Bible say about it?

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Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you just hated someone for something that they have done against you? I have been in that boat plenty of times. Every person on this earth has been stunned or hurt to where loving someone seems like the last resort to handling a problem. Let me ask you. Have you ever taken the time to see what the Word of God has to say about it?

Proverbs 21:2 “People may be right in their own eyes, but the LORD examines their heart.”

When you are wronged in whatever way, it hurts. Pain is real, hurt in this life is inevitable, so you can either let it beat you up, depress you, and let it hold you back, or you can conquer it with love.


1 John 4:8 “Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”

Mark 11:25 "And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”

It's easy to say "love those who hurt you". It's easy to say "forgive those who have wronged you". When it comes to forgiveness and letting go of hurt you have to learn the fundamentals of forgiveness. Like any sport there are fundamentals. You practice those because they are the core of what you use whenever playing the game. Well same goes for life. You can not expect a true, love filled life covered in blessings when you are the reason you are hurting. God grants us freedom in these situations. He gives us the tools to let go, but he also gives us the Choice to let go. Meaning its up to you. If you want to hold on to hurt and pray for freedom chances are nothing will happen. God clearly states in the Bible to forgive those who have wronged you or else your prayers will not be answered. God grants us his grace when we are foolish in our own ways which is how you will remained blessed even though you haven’t forgiven those who have hurt you. You can live a brilliant life, have fun, have nice things, but if you don't focus on the fundamentals of your faith and learn how to love when you are hurt, or how to forgive when you are in pain, then you will never fully live.

The instructions are simple. Have you ever heard of the K.I.S.S method? Keep.It.Simple.Stupid. It sounds harsh, but how true is it? We make things more complicated then they need to be by justifying why we shouldn't move on, or why the other person doesn't deserve love or forgiveness.

It's up to you and your fundamental faith to ignore the flashing lights around the hurt. I understand you were abused, let down, lost a loved one, grew up in a family with drugs, raised by an alcoholic, etc. All of those reasons are fair reasons to be hurt, but how long have you let it haunt you? You aren't around it anymore, that person is gone or has changed now, the only reason that is still with you is because of you.

It's time to Let Go, Let God.

Proverbs 3:5

“ Trust in the Lord and Lean Not on your own understanding.”

God says to trust in Him, to not lean on your reasons your hurting to not allow the flashing lights around it all concern you. Trust Him, Lean on Him so that he is what holds you up. There is freedom in trusting God fully. When he says forgive, you forgive. It isn't because you are not allowed to be hurt by what happened, but because you are allowing it to effect your entire life. I believe in you and your road to love and forgiveness.

I challenge you to seek God, ask him to reveal what the root of the problem is inside you and forgive that hurt, trust him and experience Gods total love like you have never before. There’s a pressure relief when you give it to God. Do it today, don't wait until tomorrow because before you know it tomorrow becomes yesterday and you are still in pain.

You can do this. You are the child of the most high God.

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